Our friend is been acting strangely lately. One minute she's friends with both of us and the next she's all "loving" the other, while the other one is there. She's paranoid we're talking about her behind her back and always assumes we've fallen out with her. She doesn't understand what it's like for us. Couldn't she at least imagine what it's like in our position? We think maybe something personal is going on in her life or her family. But how can we help her if she doesn't tell us whats up?
2006-08-05 11:51:26 · 15 answers · asked by Miss Patzz :) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
some people just don't know how to talk about what's bothering them it is a pain as you obviously care about her, you both need to talk to her at the same time but not as an 'us against you' thing but both exspress how deeply concerned you are and you would both like to help her if possible but things need to stop the way they are going as you would not like to loose her fiendship as you do value her...... good luck x
2006-08-05 12:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 5⤋
Take her aside and explain YOUR feelings. Tell her everything you mentioned in the letter above, and ask why she is paranoid about you falling out with her. If she denys it, assure her that you havnt said anything to anyone else but thats the way she comes accross to you. Ask if she is doing it without realising it, and at this piont its a good time to imaging you were her, and she hasnt realised she was doing it, and her bezzie mates hav come and said that shes being paranoid. Try and think what youd be feeling is you were her. It'll really help you to say the right thing to her.
If she hasnt realised it, every time she does it again, just remind her that you've not fallen out with her, and if you are annoyd with her be upfront about it. Tell her that you'll tell her if she annoys or upsets you straight away so you can sort it out. That should stop her feeling paranoid. Ask about family life nad stuff like that. If shes having a family problem, she might not want to talk about it so dont press her . shell come to you when shes ready.
Hope tnat helps. |Gd luck.
2006-08-06 02:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to confront her about her behaviour. No matter whats oing on in her life, it does'nt give her the right to treat you the way she is doing. Ask her if anythings wrong in her life or family etc. and then use that as a lead into saying that you think shes not being a good friend.
But, if that backfires, give her time to settle down and when you are all calm (if an argument ensues) talk it over again, its not worth losing a friend over!
2006-08-05 13:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by tateypops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is just jealous. You two need to have a talk with her and find out what the problem is. Be nice about, but confront her. Let her know that you are wanting to be her friend too, but she needs to have a little more respect for you
If she cannot respect you, then there is a problem.
It does sound like she really wanting attention.
2006-08-05 12:01:01 · answer #4 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her as a friend if something is wrong and if she wants to talk about it. If she says yes, talk to her. If she says no, tell her how she is acting and how it is affecting you and your other friend.
If she is a true friend she will either open up and spill the beans, or she will get ticked and wont talk to you again. Either way, youve done the best thing you could possibly do and that is be a friend.
2006-08-05 11:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by billydeer_2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pull her aside and ask her if everything is o.k. with her life, and explain to her what she's been doing. Tell her that with the way she's been actiing that it's affecting your relationship with her. If there is something going on with her at home, see what you and the rest of her friends can do for her. If it's just her acting out, you need to let her know you and the others won't be taking it for much longer.
2006-08-05 11:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 12:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is why best friends in threes are hard - someone always feels left out and it is obviously her - try to include her and all get together and not just 2 of you... ANd best of all, try to talk to her honestly about it - ask her what is bothering her - that is the only way to find out what is going on.
As a rule in friendships, ask the person- talk to them about what is wrong. Maybe she is jealous or feels left out - find out if something is wrong. Maybe she needs someone to talk to and feels she can't cause you guys think something is wrong with her and she knows you are talking about her and this - talk to your friend - be her friend.
2006-08-05 12:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by shane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for an intervention. Both of you have to talk to her at the same time and tell her how you feel. Give her a chance to explain. If she can't, tell her that you can no longer be friends with her.
2006-08-05 11:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why dont u arrange a meeting with her and the other frend and ask her whats wrong. like tell her what shes been doing to u guys and then ask her if shes okay and if she doesnt answer ask her if its personal and if it is dont ask anymore inless she wants to tell you and if its is not keep asking or jus say fine ill be ready if you need to talk about anything.
2006-08-05 12:08:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u could do it the hard way and treat them like they treat u and it might not get through their heads and may even spit up ur friendship or u could do it the easy way which could ruin the friendship but it would get through and the easy way is to sit them down and tell them out right.
2006-08-05 11:57:18 · answer #11 · answered by ghosthunter_blade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋