My husband got drunk and went crazy the other day. he started hitting me about 6 times and the head. then he hit my dad, finely we called cops and he in jail. Am i crazy for missing him, Am i crazy for still loveing him.
2006-08-05 11:27:04 · 27 answers · asked by amanda_ploof 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i got a 4 month old baby boy
2006-08-05 11:43:41 · update #1
no your not crazy for loving him,hes your husband.but it was a good thing you did call the cops.They say love through thick and thin.Its not right for him to hit you or you dad.while hes in jail i would talk to your dad and maybe you can think about what he did,maybe it will be better if you leave him.Good luck.Next time whip is @ss lol.
2006-08-05 11:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not crazy for missing or loving him, but you WILL be crazy if you stay with him. The man has problems you cant solve. He's a drunk and a wife-beater and a violent, out of control person. Staying with him endangers you and endangers your family. If this happened once, it WILL happen again and next time someone might get SERIOUSLY hurt.
You need to seperate from him and be ready to start a new life for yourself. If your husband seeks professional help and can get his life together, great. You can always get back together later if it seems right. If not, you're better off.
2006-08-05 11:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't crazy for loving him--but you are if you let him come back. My husband is a cop and he will tell that it never happens once and always gets worse. He can drive down a street and point out a house where he has gotten called 3 times for abuse and the wife bails him out everytime. If he agrees to counseling, consider a trial separation and then see what happens. Drinking is not the cause of abuse. It is not an excuse. You should not have to live in fear of him drinking.
2006-08-05 11:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes to both questions. No man has the right to hit you, & 6 times means it was no accident. The rift between men & women is thankfully closing but it is chauvanistic, control freaks like your husband that are keeping it there. People like him rarely change although they are always sorry & say it will never happen again, it usually does & usually gets worse. And is someone like him really the role model you would want for your kids if & when you have them?
2006-08-05 11:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by cotts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not at all crazy. You love and miss the person that wasn't drunk. You probably have mixed emotions. Hate the drunken husband and love the husband he was before. Just be happy he's gone before it went way, way out of hand. You can email me at Cedez92@yahoo.com
2006-08-05 11:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by cedez92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hit you and your dad! Ok, it's time to do some serious thinking and decide if this is the man you want to continue exposing yourself and your dad too.
You are not crazy for still loving him, but you are crazy if you remain with him. Remember Nicole Simpson?
2006-08-05 11:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to still love and want to be with someone that you have feelings for but please understand that you didn't do anything wrong tot deserve his treatment of you or your father... as much as you love him consider that if he is capable of the violence against you and even to your family he is not worth keeping around. It's very difficult to except this I know and feelings are hard to control but be a realist and see him for what and who he is outside of the feelings that you have for him. Jail is where he should be so that he can't harm you or your family any more. God Bless.
2006-08-05 11:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You THINK you love him. This is not love. He will be sorry, of course, but if you want to put up with him hitting you, that is one thing, but to hit your father? Come on now! Next, he will hit your mother, then your grandma. Then, OOPS! He will accidently kill someone. YOu have to start believing that YOU DESERVE BETTER. Once you believe that, then you WILL GET BETTER. But, he won't change. Not unless he joins A.A. and finds God, and his arms get chopped off in a chain saw accident.
2006-08-05 11:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you're not crazy for loving him. However you need to be realistic. Is it really healthy to be around someone with that little self respect he needs to resort to violence to answer his frustrations. He needs to see for himself what a problem his drinking causes and you taking him back is only going to prolong the problem for him. So, if you really love him you have to let him go, as it will only lead to even more serious damage and harm.
2006-08-05 11:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you aren't crazy. You just have to look and see if there is a patern of this behavior. You also should ask yourself if he is willing to get help. People are not automatically "bad" for life because of one incident. But, if you want to part with him, get support from friends and family.
2006-08-05 11:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by Its Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋