She met this guy on the internet and slept with him. She continues this behavior still by phone and internet right in front of me. We have 4 kids that don't realize whats going on and are hurt. ages 5,7,9,11. She has said she's filing for a divorce.
2006-08-05 11:05:45 · 26 answers · asked by bromo5 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I understand your dilemma, but you must ask yourself what did you do , or are doing to contribute to the way your "wife" treats you and the kids. She can not do to you what you have not allowed her to. (Take ownership for yourself) It is obvious that it is not you that she wants, so divorce seems immanent at this point. I suggest that you ask for help from your family when it comes to the kids. Then you must file for divorce. Don't wait for her to do it, because if she was going to file, she would have done it by now. If it is a financial issue for you, then it is for her as well. I highly recommend for you to seek sole custody for your kids, as they should not be subjected to men roaming in and out of your wife's bedroom. Kids learn from what they see. It will be hard, but Christ can bring you through any and everything. Have faith and look towards God for your strength.
2006-08-05 11:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by LadyJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not care about your feelings at all, and is wanting you to stand up and be a man, so how come you don't? Put your foot down, buddy. When she is on the internet with the other guy, UNPLUG IT. Don't kid yourself, your children know something is wrong, and that Dad is miserable, so stop using them for an excuse. KICK HER OUT. What are you afraid of? She has you beaten down emotionally (that is called emotional abuse). STAND UP for yourself. I would walk all over you, too. No woman wants a mouse for a husband. Don't YOU Leave, as you have done nothing wrong. Throw her clothes out the door, and change the locks. Tell her to go live with her lover. THEN watch what happens.....she will be begging to come back.
2006-08-05 11:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a baby on the way and I understand what you are going through. She has done it once, and will do it again. I say try and get what you can from the divorce, and run. There are plenty of women out there who will be faithful and loving to you and your kids. The hard part is finding one.
2006-08-05 11:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her ***, and let the kids go with her until the divorce is finished. It will kill her chances of having a romantic relationship with 4 kids in the house.
go for alimony and child support. Make her get a freaking Job.
And don't unplug the computer, start recording her sessions and logging every time she makes a phone call to someone, or receives one, and compare it to your phone bill. Get all the proof you can and nail her *** in court.
P.S. Explain it to the kids, You're not protecting them by not telling them what's happening. All you're doing is protecting your wife by not telling them because she is doing this to them as well as you.
I grew up in a household where my father cheated, and I was always told it "didn't concern me" by both of them, that's bullshit, it concerned me as much as them, they just didn't want to acknowledge it because it would hurt them too much to know I was being hurt too. Be honest with your kids.
And get her *** out of that house. If she wants to cheat, make her do it from her friends or relatives house, not yours. Let everyone see this ***** for what she is, a selfish low life.
2006-08-05 11:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well are you still going to the strip club's? If the answer is no, then change the lock's you weak assed excuse for a man. Get an order of protection from the courts she not going to fight you for the kid's, she doesn't want them. She only cares about herself, that will never change
2006-08-05 11:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though this may seem mean spirited at first, talk to her her best friend or family members. Not in a gossipy kind of way, but in a straight forward "this is what is happening" kind of way. I know that if my husband did anything like that to me, I could call his mom or brothers and they would, at the least, make him do right by the children. Don't do this to get even. Consider it an intervention.
2006-08-05 11:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up, and be a man! If she's really cheating on you, then you should divorce her! No financial situation is worth the humiliation that you're going through! It's obvious that your wife has no respect for herself or for anyone else. Your children shouln't be subjected to this type of behaviour!
2006-08-05 11:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're leaving if she's filing for divorce. Get on that computer and start pulling transcripts.
2006-08-05 11:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by Islandkiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce her, worry about the finances later, take the issue up in court!
However, if you don't want to leave..get off YAHOO and make yourself content with what she's doing.
Otherwise, kick her to the curb!
2006-08-05 11:30:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get a 2nd job, get custody of the kids and file for child support.
2006-08-05 11:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by not2nite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋