what should i do now that i am 18?

Question

my mom doesn't let me do ANYTHING!!even on the weekends i always need to stay in the house or be in by at lease 10:00pm and it is so boring.all my freinds nag me because i never get to do anything.i am going to be 18 and i was wondering what i should do to get to go out more often........should i make up an agreement and if so what should it be about?

and she just figured out like yesterday that i've smoked before but i told her i made a promise to myself that i wouldn't anymore.and i think she is sipisious about me haveing sex.

what would be a good cerfew time?i do have a cell phone she could call me on!

Answer 1

I don't think you can make those decisions until you move out. You are living in your parents' home and because of that you are obligated to follow their rules. Someday if you have children, you will want the same respect.

Answer 2

I think it's time for you to sit down with your mom and discuss why she doesn't trust you to be responsible at age 18. Have you done stuff in the past that has caused her to be suspicious of you and your ability to make good decisions?
If you have been good and obedient and such, then you both need a heart to heart to figure out why she is chaining you to the house at age 18. You are legally an adult and all, but as long as you are living under her roof and she is paying your bills, she does have somethign to say. The deal is, find out WHY she insists on these rules more suited to a 15 year old. A reasonable curfew and some other rules should be established between you. You do desrve some freedom at age 18.

Answer 3

First think about this: how responsible are you? Do you get good grades, hold down a part time job, etc? If you don't, perhaps you're not mature enough to stay out. BUT, if you do get good grades and have a job and are generally responsible, speak to your mom RATIONALLY. See if she'll let you stay out if you're doing something specific - like going to a movie with a friend, or over to a friend's house.
I don't blame her for not letting you out if you don't have a specific plan. People in your age bracket (late teens to mid-20s) seem to think they're invincible and that nothing bad can ever happen to them. Those people are WRONG. The instances of car accidents and other stupid things is ridiculously high for that age bracket. In the news in NY of late, there's a story of an 18 year old girl who went clubbing in NYC with a friend, they got very drunk, and she ended up getting raped and murdered. Her friend got sick and people called an ambulance for her and the girl who got killed was scared and ran away. That dumb mistake cost her her life. Perhaps your mom is afraid of that.

Keep this all in mind - EVERYONE does dumb things but it shouldn't cost them their life. If you can present your mom with a specific plan, there shouldn't be a reason why you shouldn't be allowed a later curfew- I didn't say NO CURFEW, just a reasonably later one - but not if you're just going to wander the streets. Then she's within her reason to say no.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Ur Mom She Take care Of You..She Dont Want You To Be Single Moms Like Others...I think The Best Way To Help You Out Its Try To Find A Job And Work...

Answer 5

Ok are you graduated already from highschool or is this your last year? I would say if u r still in school your probably ok with being home at 10 on weekdays but on weekends Id say till atleast midnight! Thats my 15 year olds curfew. Let her know where u will be and with whom and who will be driving and call in and check in with her! She is only worried about you and is doing this out of love!!!! If u have graduated- get a job and start saving up money so u can get a place of your own- then there wont be any rules!

Answer 6

Just wait until you find yourself a Boyfriend he will take you too places and have fun. You can even kick it in your house. Your 18 years old but your still young; who cares what people think , just listen to your Mom, she could save your life; I been in an out of prison sense i was 18 years of age, reason for this is that i never listen to my Mom. Enjoy life and be happy that you have a Mom who cares; Now that your 18 continue been the same person you are, don't change, no one likes that type of people, have a nice day and God bless you.

Answer 7

Well hunny, i am afraid that as long as you live under your parents roof, you do need to respect there rules and wishes. But like you said you are coming up 18, so have you tried to talk with them even if it only gets you out for and extra hour or so to start with that might help. Either that or of course there is always moving out and getting your own place or even getting a shared place or something, anything is a start don't you think, so if talking with them does not work then try for your own place hunny, but then having saying that you have to realize how hard it can be to run your own place which is why sometimes it may be better to share or if you have no means of supporting yourself then as i first said it might be better to try and put up with your parents,and have a go at trying to compromise with them, if they will not have it and there is no way of compromising with them then if you do have means of support go for it.
Good luck with what ever you decide to do. xx

Answer 8

It depends on if you are expecting to stay at home any longer or not. i know that it does suck, but in all reality, if you plan to stay at home then you might not want to push these boundries. So, I'd say just realize that they are the rules.
And hey, if you are planning to go to college, then you may also want to consider if you rebel now, they are not going to be as likely to be wanting to help pay for stuff... My suggestion, is to try and get a once a weekend sleep over w/ your friends... If your just now 18, your still in high school... concentrate on that, it'll help you in the long run more than you realize it will

Answer 9

hello your 18 offically old enough to do whatever the hell u want if uve got another place to stay like with a friend or family member move out your house after all your 18 and u can but if u dont have a place to go id just try to reason with your mom for now i hope that helped

Answer 10

My sister is 18 and she goes out like a maniac
but you can never blame a parent on wishing that you feel safe
an agreement?
hmmm...see what she want you to do
and if you wanna go out so badly make a deal
if not then ask if you could invite people over for sleepovers and vice versa

Answer 11

Before making any decission and leaving home think about future.
Can you support your life?
Will you feel lonely?
Are you going to continue your study?
Are you going to work?
If you tollerate your Mom for next 2-3 years,will you have a better life?
Think deeply and be wise.You can always smoke,go out with friends,drink,have sex,..... but studying in university or making a good &successful future are not always available !