how do i deal wiht someone who talks at me and steamrollers everything i say?

Question

a woman has foisted herself on me at the cafe where i eat-she is a 'transmit only mode' person
why do htey need to be like this?
how do i deal wiht her as she disregards everything i say
i am interested as i tend to be the same myself with suitable victims,its not pretty and i am not proud of it-it does seem like its anxiety

Answer 1

Perhaps it may give you relief from some kind of insecurity you may feel around others. It's like a false sense of superiority that soon fades and then the cycle repeats again. Try saying those kind of comments to yourself first, then it gives you time to come up with a more appropriate response.Give yourself a break. This will take time to break. We all have some degree of insecurity in this world. Reward yourself for every successful encounter. I hope you obtain what you need. Have a great weekend.

Answer 2

Your both the same, clearly, as you feel she dosnt listen, and no doubt, she feels the same, thats why she harps on at you.
Listen to her, show her this by commenting on something she's interested in, or has said, not changing it to something your interested in.
A conversation has to be steered,for her to listen to, and accept your points, make them an antholgy of one of her points, an example of what shes saying, by steering it.
This can only happen if you listen, understand what she's TRYING to say, and acknowlage her accordingly.
Two people talking is noise.
Two people communicating, is rapport.
This will not happen, until you be charitable about the woffling, and listen for the inner her.
Of course, she may still be a pain in the ar*se, but at least you,ll have tried, and if done correctly, succeeded.

Answer 3

Tell her you don't mean to be rude, but will she grant you the dignity of listening to what you have to say? There's more to a conversation than simply waiting for the other person to stop talking. Communication is a sharing of BOTH person's ideas and reflections. Again, you don't mean to be rude as it just seems as though she's not listening. Being ignored doesn't help the communication process...

Answer 4

Since you say you do the same yourself with suitable victims, you must know what would shut you up. Apply the same treatment to her. If it doesn't work, go and eat in another cafe.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Just Be Calm And Collected And Ask Her Can You have Your say now and then start to talk and if she tries to interupt keep on talking until You have finished

Answer 7

I'd set her straight in a hurry.

I'd start off by saying: GOD you love to hear yourself speak, don't you?

Then I'd follow it up by saying.... how sad... you can't learn very much if you don't listen.

Call her on it... no need to be shy... or particularly kind.

Answer 8

Just keep talking anyway. You two sound perfect for each other. Why listen?

Answer 9

Just interrupt her mid-sentence and say, "If you're just going to sit here and talk all day, I'm not going to listen." You have to be direct, or she won't get what you're saying.

Answer 10

if she is a friend of yours ask her in a polite way why does she do that ,if she is not a friend tell her to stop doing that and if she still persists in doing it then quit talking to her