why is it that guys look at other girls when their partner is with them, how should or does the partner feel about that.
2006-08-05 10:27:43 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i'm asking because when i was at my brothers 25th Birthday my partner, kept watching this girl and i felt terrible because i felt he was paying more attention in her. He was watching her most of the night until she starting to push me into drinking more than my limit with alcohol,by putting peer presure on me.
2006-08-05 10:40:13 · update #1
i tried to get his attention by moving my leg up an down his. As i was getting really hurt and it was in front of my brother and sister too .
2006-08-05 10:50:31 · update #2
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2006-08-05 10:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at attractive people is a hard habit to break. Ideally the guy would be so satisfied with his partner that he wouldn't even care to look. On the other hand, ideally the partner has enough confidence in the guy and the relationship to not care if he's looking at an attractive woman.
For guys who do this habitually it could be that they lack the consideration to care, or the self-discipline to stop. Or it could be some type of power game. If the guys partner gets noticeably upset when he does this, he might be annoyed with her jealous and do it just to spite her. On the other hand, if his partner reacts to his wandering eye by doing something to regain his attention it could be that he is just acting out to get whatever that is.
Still, these are men we are talking about, so its best to keep it simple. Men love looking at beautiful women. The average guy probably spends half his day looking at attractive women on the street, on TV, in magazines, at work... anywhere and everywhere we can. Honestly its the only thing that keeps guys going day to day. If you could remove that impulse some how, the guy would probably never get out of bed.
Personally, I've been pretty well trained, and can now focus my attention on just the woman I'm with... of course I'm getting older too so I care less and less about pretty girls walking by. However, ladies need to ask themselves what specifically bothers them about this behavior. Does it make you jealous or do you think he wants to cheat on you? Either way you should dump this guy because you obviously don't trust him. Do you expect us not to look at beautiful women when you're not around? Because that's like asking a lion to change it's diet to cereal.
Even the best trained guy is going to gawk at a beautiful woman now and again (and why wouldn't we have you seen what women are wearing on the streets these days?!?!). It doesn't mean we don't love you, or we want someone else, or we don't find you attractive anymore. Don't over think guys, we are extremely simple. When we stare the only thing we're thinking is, "Hot..." That's it. It's not something complex and emotional. It's not something deliberate or thought out in the least. It's stupid animal instinct, and the only thing you can really do is ask the guy to keep it to a minimum and try not to get upset or over-analyze when it happens.
2006-08-05 11:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by du_robot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't bother me in the least, I turn it into a joke and say, 'enjoying the view?' I think it's in their genes to look at pretty girls. It means I can look at cute guys too! We are both secure enough in our relationship for it not to be a problem. I think if I did have a problem with it, he would probably try not to look. Have you talked to your partner about how you feel?
2006-08-05 10:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a natural human emotion to window shop other good lookers, both male and female do it. If you're in a secure relationship it shouldn't bother you provided it is window shopping. Nothing is more destructive than a jealous tantrum.
Talk it over and decide that sauce for the goose..
2006-08-05 10:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wandering eyes is an early warning sign of a trait of those who could cheat. Be wary and make sure he knows how you feel otherwise he may not take you seriously the more you let him get away with it. Good luck with all, doll x
2006-08-05 10:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because they are players and will never be 100% faithful to any one girl. Their eyes are always looking for something better no matter what their girlfriend looks like. I feel sorry for them, and the women who put up with it.
2006-08-05 10:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by mixemup 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as hes not flirting its natural for guys to do this, its like girls and "that time of the month" if you stop it, something will go desperately wrong!! If you trust the guy, you can trust his instincts, however if he is totally checking out girls, dump him. Most good guys wouldn't do this on purpose, its not their fault that they have eyes. how do i know? i happen to be one of those good guys.
2006-08-05 10:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by drummerboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me I'd ignore them and converse easily with my partner, after all a glance is basically nothing more than a guy being stupid from a guy.
2006-08-05 10:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by Trey123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's WITH you, he looks because he is still ailve. I even help my husband check out good looking women sometimes! Looking doesn't hurt anything - jealousy does - and constant jealousy pushes your partner away.
2006-08-05 10:32:54 · answer #9 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The partner feels like a piece of **** when their significant other does this. Spoken from one who experienced it.
2006-08-05 10:31:36 · answer #10 · answered by hi t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to handle this akwards situations is to be honest and upfront with it, telling him/her what is bothering you and why. and asking the reason for their behavior, it works most of the time unlees that person is a complete jerk, good luck next time
2006-08-05 11:38:08 · answer #11 · answered by joe r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋