When a woman is 30 years old, and has had three children. One from a marriage, then another relationship, she had two more boys. Her first child was raised his first 5yrs,by her X mother-in-law. Then now, she has to have a older neice or nephew with her at all times to watch her boys. She will work over time, go shoping, to the movies, what ever to stay away,and the man in this relationship comes home and watching kids-cooks- and cleans for them. Then the woman says he is not a good father, or not a family man. But she can not even take a shower without someone to watch the boys. Would you call this being a mother?
2006-08-05 10:23:57 · 17 answers · asked by badcops2hell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Her side of the story of course is not as mine. But seriously, this woman has a real problem, I know this personally, the man is my son. I have babysat ever sinse they were born. Which is not a problem, the problem is, I really think she has a mental problem, because she dose not see this as wrong at all. She does not work over time to make etra money, she wil work over time to make up for taken off during the day for some reason or another. My son works as a farmer, which he is in the heat all day, rain or shine, then comes home and takes care of his kids. Cook his own meals, wash his own cloths, has done this for 8 yrs. In which I guess he loves her or he would have quit putting up with this crap a long time ago. The fight started three weekends ago. She took off of work to go to her step-sister's, father in law's funeral. She hated the man, but my son and his son had been friends all of their life. Most couples would make arragements to go together to this funeral. But not her.
2006-08-05 14:10:45 · update #1
She did not even ask if he was going to go. She told him he would of course have to take care of the boys. Well as usall things went as she planed. She called about 9:00pm that night and said she was not coming home, because it was a 2 hour drive, and it was late and it was raining. So my son was very dishearted, I made a sugjection to him, told him to go to his freinds and drink a beer and just relax and i would watch the kids. First time he ever done that, even when she would leave for the whole weekend. But guess what 2 and a half hours later she was beating on his friends door, throwing a total fit. Told him to get his stuff and get out.. Now she is saying while she was at a funeral, at 9 pm...(NOT) he was at a friends drinking. He is worthless. I really dont think she see's how much she is away from him and the kids. Or she really dont care... I am confused and concerned..
2006-08-05 14:17:42 · update #2
I know someone that is similar to her. She will not work, expects everyone else to take care of her, pay her bills, take care of her kids etc while she sits on her *** and does nothing but sit at the computer talking to different men. She has a bf who supports her, and works hard for a living and she uses him.
She wants to run around all the time with other people. Male and female.
She has one child that her mother has custody of now and she has a son who she neglects endlessly.
These women are not mothers....the are egg donors.
Just as men who are not fathers are just sperm donors.
It takes alot more then giving birth to a child to be a mother.
I feel badly for your son ( I believe that is who you said he was)
and he really needs to wake up and smell the coffee. Damn perk up some Folgers and give him a few cups.
Him and the children will be miserable for the rest of their lives living in that kind of an environment.
If you have proof of what she is doing then call CPS and get them to do an investigation into the home.
Good luck and God Bless
2006-08-12 15:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is only one side of the story here. What is her take on this. She works, takes over-time to support her kids. This doesn't leave her alot of time to help. I don't agree with her leaving the kids to go to the movies, etc, though. Maybe she doesn't say that she appreciated those who are helping? People also who are trying their best, can get frustrated and say things just without thinking.
She is a mother and always will be. She gave birth. Whether or not she is a good one, I can't say. But from what you wrote, I don't see a major enough problem to call her a bad one!
2006-08-05 10:37:44 · answer #2 · answered by Twisted Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with your definition of mother. Once you give birth to a child, you are a mother. An exception may be a woman who abuses or neglects her child, because she's not behaving in a motherly way. But any woman who loves her child and feels an attachment to her child is still a mother, even if she isn't the one raising the child. When distinctions are relevant, then 'bio mother' seems like the best option to me. It's the most descriptive, and doesn't make value judgments. Birth giver and breeder are just offensive. Women are human beings with feelings, not machines to provide you with a baby.
2016-03-27 00:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your friend, and your don't want to break up the family. Dig in your heals and help. There are to many foster homes out their that are just as bad as where those kids are living now. Mental support is just as important as money. Be a good listener for the kids. Mommy is having troubles finding herself, and doesn't like the situation she is in. If you truly love these kids, take them in and support them. I know not much of a choice. Good luck.
2006-08-05 10:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by crafty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds familiar...
yes shes a mother but not a very good one. she needs to get her head in the game because her kids will resent her for it. she had the kids and theyre her responsibility. she needs to step up and handle the situation. now. if she dosnt soon then the kids could turn out problems. my brothers on a path to jail and him and my sister need counseling and anger managment and other stuff. kids need a good example or at least someone there to help them decide to be an example. she needs to fix it before it breaks. good luck.
2006-08-05 10:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is apsolutly PATHETIC to even be called a women at all!!!! it almost makes me ashamed to even be called the same sex as her!! she doesn't even know the meaning of the word mother, all she's proved is the she knows how to incubate and give birth. If I were you I would tell that to her face!!
2006-08-05 10:32:32 · answer #6 · answered by novamouy17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a mess, but as long as my tax dollars aren't going to support her and her kids, I'll refrain from saying anything more.
2006-08-05 10:28:49 · answer #7 · answered by Taffi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she aint ready to be a mum,
my mum is kinda like that but sooo much worse,
try get help your kids need you trust me i know im 16 with no family at all.
2006-08-11 13:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a women like that is no good at all she is not worth the **** no she could not be a good mother if she can't take care of her owen
2006-08-13 04:49:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lazy.
2006-08-05 10:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋