our relationship has been kind of bumpy . The other day i was writing things on a piece of paper pros and cons about my boyfriend , some of them i spoke to him about others i left to myself. So he likes to clean my car, its always messy but anyways, i had the papers in the car and i think he read them what do you think? but ever since hes been sorta wiered this was 3 weeks ago.
We have sex , but ive been thinking of waiting if i get married to him now. we've spoke about it and he says he wants to but i want to test his love for me.
Is this somthing smart to do? since i already had sex with him plenty of time, is it wrong to wait now to see if he really wants to marry me
2006-08-05 10:14:24 · 5 answers · asked by lovesugarkisses 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sound like you are having sex with him just for him, not for yourself too. I don't know what kind of papers you had in your car but if someone is not just trying to do saomething nice by cleaning your car and just wants to snoop through your stuff, I'd think twice about spending the rest of your life with them .
2006-08-05 10:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex by itself is not a good basis for marriage. The person you marry should be your best friend, the one you can count on to help you through rough times.
Ask yourself ... If everything in life went bad (lost your job, wrecked your car, got sick, ended up broke) -- would this guy stay with you and help you get your life back together?
When you make a decision to marry someone, the question is not, "Does he have more good points than bad points?" You need to know, "Is this guy good enough that I can overlook his bad points for the rest of my life?" It's likely that any faults he has now, he'll still have 30 years from now.
If you think he saw that list you wrote, ask him about it.
Good luck to you both.
2006-08-05 17:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and I were engaged FOREVER we lived just like a married couple except via law. He would always talk about marriage, but he never took it serious like I did. He would say it's just a piece of paper, were doing everything like a married couple anyway. So I made up in my mind, that's fine but the next person I have sex with will be my husband, I informed him of that, and he tried everything in his power to get me to have sex with him,sometimes I really wanted to give in too!!! But I kept strong, he never cheated (at least I never found out if he did, because of he did cheat because I refused have sex with him then he really wasn't interested in me at all just sex) Anyway we got married because he got tired of waiting. Good Luck, it's not really testing him you are just setting higher standards in your relationship!
2006-08-05 19:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by rockwithelmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definetly do that to see if he truly cares about you because now a days the only thing guys care about is having sex and us as women let ourselves be mistreated and hurt by how our boyfriends treat us i've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and in this past year i found out his girl cousin likes him,he kissed a girl (which i saw),and has been talking to a girl behind my back.....c'mon if you're not doing anything bad then what's the reason to hide it......Love is ...sometimes hell
2006-08-05 17:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FORNICATOR
2006-08-05 17:26:33 · answer #5 · answered by ditzhitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋