my partner and i had a row the other day and he told me it was over. The last 2 months i have been recovering from a serious illnes and he has been looking after me. We are very much in love and i couldnt wish for a better man.We have spoke on the phone today and he is still angry over the row. He has also said we can talk but he is not saying that we will get back together. We have known each for 2 years and have been a couple most of this time although we have rowed before and split up. Would you give up even though you know he is a good man and accept it is over or try and save the relationship even if he says he is not sure he wants to take the risk of being hurt again? We had even started talking about marriage!
2006-08-05 10:10:16 · 4 answers · asked by carolina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
to really know what is going on in his head you need to ask him...
there could be a myriad of things bthering him... including things that do not involve you..
serious illness brings up for everyone the very reality of their own and their loved ones mortality... just realising that someone can just up and die and there is nothing you can do about it can be a huge realisation for anyone...
give him a few daysto sift through his own thoughts and feelings... then give him a call and tell him how much you care about him.. love him.. and that you would like to talk when he is ready to talk...
when and if he agrees to talk just tell him that you want to hear what he has to say... then listen...
remember during this conversation that men are not usually the better communicators and may not be as in touch with feelings as women... they may not have the same tools as you for talking about what is going on for them and may not be able to say it the 'right way'. Try to hear what he is really saying and not just what he says...
2006-08-05 10:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Leave him to cool down for a few days. Let him sort out his feelings without bothering him. He'll call you eventually. It might take a week or two, but that's what he probably needs right now. When both of you are calmer, it will be easier to talk. Good luck.
2006-08-05 10:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and recover from your illness first.
2006-08-06 00:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is real love it will sort itself out. hang in there
2006-08-05 10:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋