I have been with my boyfriend for just about 3 years now. We have had serious discussions about marriage, kids and the future and we're both really happy and settled in our relationship to spend the rest of our lives together. But there's just one problem: he comes from a different country and he wants to move back there within a few years because he wants to spend time with his parents (his father has a medical condition), but my parents are still in the UK (they are quite old) and I want to stay here to be with them. We both know that a long distance relationship will be difficult to sustain and would rather stay in one place together. We both know that this can be a serious dent in our relationship and this needs to be sorted before any plans for marriage goes ahead. What do i do?
2006-08-05 09:56:51 · 13 answers · asked by babyface 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would like to tell you that I have almost same condition as you and the same problem . About the solution what I am thinking is that me and my girl will shift to a place where both of our parents will be near to us . I know it;s kind of away from parents while ones parent is in special need but to be honest not every one in this world wants to stay away from parents who really love them . But to get something we sometimes have to sacrifice something but staying somewhere which is near to both or like the middle from both side is a good idea I can tell . Or one has to sacrifice staying near to one;s parents which none will agree if the guy does the girl will feel sorrow or vice versa -
I have thought alot because I also have the same problem - hope this will help I guess .
2006-08-05 10:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by Thinking 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation right now. I think you should cut your losses-at least you have only been with him for 3 years. In my case the 'genius' waited almost a decade before telling me his intentions. As kids are involved it makes the situation that more complex. But I told him when the time to go comes-see ya! Never let your life be defined by another. BTW If your parents die and you are overseas you may never forgive yourself-no man is worth that!! Kick him to the curb honey!!! Maybe when he sees he will lose you he will reconsider and if not-then go your separate ways-life does go on!
P.S. NEVER follow your heart-use your brain instead....it'll never let you down!!
2006-08-05 10:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by MAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on which country he want you to go to. Refuse to go to a Muslim country. They treat women like dirt. If your parents are old you will feel guilty if you leave them. Stay in the UK. He could make a short visit to his country and come back if he is serious about you. His answer will tell you what you need to know.
2006-08-05 10:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like an "irreconcilable difference". One of you will need to give in, or else the relationship as you know it now will come to an end.
Some relationships are not meant to last forever. People come into our lives for a reason and when their mission is over, they move out of our lives.
2006-08-05 10:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by Diane D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly you certainly do no longer choose a guy like that. even though it seems such as you fairly care approximately your son so so you might objective to get partial custody of him. i'd say report for a divorce, come across a sturdy criminal professional that might actually assist you as a results of fact your husband will probably have them say you deserted them, be easy approximately how your husband became into emotionally abusive to you and you should no longer stay with him decrease than those circumstances. nicely suited now your new child actual probably hates you so which you would be able to desire to realize out to him, prepare him that it wasn't his fault you left or he won't forgive you for leaving. bear in mind hes your son, he loves you too yet he won't experience like that in view which you left. if his father observed you as a guy or woman to take care your son and that's it then your son probably desires you. take your ideas and do some thing with them, combat on your son to coach him how a lot you like him or he will probably never forgive you
2016-09-28 22:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by regula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what's the first thing that comes to your mind when you think 'what should i do?' maybe you should stay with your parents for a little bit, he can go to his, and when things are going better...get back together again. of course, if you two are going for only a month or two...that would be ok for me unless your parents are in need of help. hope this helps a little
2006-08-05 10:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have 2 look at the country u would be going 2 and think CAN I LIVE AND BE HAPPY?? can i get home if i want u have 2 think of yourself not just him how is that country's attitude 2 women
2006-08-05 10:06:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you need anyone to answer the most important thing about your future and destiny. the amount of trust and confidence you currently have with your boyfriend should determine which way you wanna take it. is he a man full of character and worth you taking a risk? only you can analyse this.
2006-08-05 10:02:32 · answer #8 · answered by MWALA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he can go on extended visits to his parents. It might cost more, but it might work. Also, it depends upon what country we're talking about. Is it a place that you want to go? If it isn't, don't.
2006-08-05 10:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by Michael D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. Your parents aren't going to live forever and shouldn't rule your life NOW. My husband was from a different country and raised traditional Chinese. His parents are old, threatened to disown him and hate me. He chose me and to move to my country. (U.S.) He has no regrets and we have been happily married for 10 years now.
2006-08-05 10:01:38 · answer #10 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋