hey ladies umm well my friend***** has been my best frined since like jr high and im in colege now and we have been rly close if u kno what i mean ..and well she asked me to have sex with her the other night and i wasnt sure what i shud of done becuz were soo close and i didnt want to ruin nething soo i said no and she seems rly sad lately and im wondering if i shud of said yes and made her rly rly rly happy becuz i kno she loves me alot just by the way she wud act around me
2006-08-05 09:55:07 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't do it unless you want a relationship. No matter what a girl says, if she has sex with you, she wants more than just sex.
2006-08-05 09:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by WEIRDRELATIVES 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her that since you guy's have been friends for so long, that you feel more like her brother, than her future lover... You should never sleep with someone you have known that long if you doubt it for 1 second. If you did want to and didn't do it then you should take her out to eat and then watch the movie The Notebook together and see where it leads you. You can also just do guy stuff that you know would work too, but you already turned her down once so be cautious of what you do...
2006-08-05 10:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by pinkfuzzz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP. what do YOU want? if its not a relationship "like that" w/her, then let it be and your friendship will have survived another (akward but passing) bump in the road. I tried dating my bf (a guy) once, and we are still close, b/c we decided after one week that it was going to ruin us, and it would have. Keep what you have and if love forms, it will be inside both of you...she just needs love right now it sounds, but love comes in many forms and you should NOT do it by the way youre talking...it will only make things complicated where they wouldnt have been before and it will never go away. Have a heart-to-heart...NOT in your room! Be careful with her-you know what will happen if you let the curiousity get the better of you-be strong, thats what she needs from you really.
2006-08-05 10:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by mello83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone truely loves you then no would have been enough. Having sex when you are not ready or not willing is never fun and you will regret it if you do. Maybe she needs to be reassured that sex is not always the solution to her passion for you. Why not make her feel secure enough in the relationship to not want to put pressure on you for sex. After all it is a relationship, not just hers.
2006-08-05 10:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by angelsfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are as close as you say you are, you should not have sex with her. Only if you love her because. If you are not ready to make a commit to the next level of friendship to boyfriend and girl friend. You will ruin your relationship for life.
Get with her only if you want more then sex!!
2006-08-05 10:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by donnasworld1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you didn't want to do it because, you don't want to ruin you're relationship with her, you should just tell her. so, she can stop being so sad.
now, you need to ask yourself how much you like her, if it's just as friends then you need to tell her the truth, that you just want to be friends. so she can stop trying, and move on. and stop waisting her time with you and go to some other college guy!
you just need to be as honest as you can with her and don't hurt her feelings and if you do, at least she knows the truth, instead of you lying to her. in the end it will all work out. for the best!
2006-08-05 10:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by *Love is 1 Big Lie* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss it with her. Explain why you said no.
If you're a college student, you need to work on your English skills instead of being so concerned about sex.
2006-08-05 09:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it's weird doing it with your best friend. I can undertsand that just like it's wierd doing your cousin or brother or sister. You've known that person all your life.
2006-08-05 09:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn how to spell. You appear to be an idiot, and no woman wants to commit to someone who can't spell a simple word like "girls".
2006-08-05 09:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Smarty Pants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd get a lot more answers if you didn't limit this to gils. J/K
2006-08-05 09:57:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋