We havent had sex in 2 and a half years and I miss it so much...I dont know how to come on to him because I have no idea when he's aroused...he doesnt premature ejactulate instead he doesnt get hard...he still gets excited and wants to have sex now its only oral no more intercourse...its been hard on me and he refuses to go to the doctors cuz he says he knows what it is...he's diabetic so he says there's nothing he can do...if anyone can give me some different aproaches I would appreciate any help!
2006-08-05 09:44:13 · 7 answers · asked by tinker143 5 in Health ➔ Men's Health
We had great sex before and doing our marriage but the last time he could get it hard was in may of 2004 since then he cant....he says its lack of blood flow and that since he's diabetic they wont give him viagra
2006-08-05 16:09:33 · update #1
Its not true that there is nothing he can do. Modern medicine can work miracles.
Approach the subject with him gently and offer to go to the doctor with him.
I am a nurse and we see men with ED all of the time. Its pretty common and after your husband is examined, the urologist will prescribe him some viagra or some other type medicine to bring his penis to attention.
2006-08-05 09:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm Diabetic and I have no issues.
It sounds like your husband is supremely lazy and is taking advantage of your understanding. If Oral works for him then obviously he doesn't have ED.
Other Reasons he might not want to have intercourse?
A: He's Lazy.
B: He's Gay.
C: He finds you unattractive.
D: he loves you like a sister instead of a wife.
E: He's got Vagina Phobia? heh.
Obviously those aren't the end all be all of answers, but they are a few of the top 10 most likely. Stop taking his excuses for gospel and get him to own up about it.
If he's a real man he'll be secure enough to discuss the problem openly with some pushing on your part. If it's afecting your marriage this much, you need to tell him so. As it sounds like he's not satisfying you.
2006-08-05 10:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you because it is obvious that you are going through agony. Consider the possibility that your husband is gay and whether he is prepared to admit it or not there is no possible way that you can give him what he wants and through no fault of your own. You are a bright intelligent loving person so why are you so hung up on a guy who treats you so badly, who is blatantly secretive and is never going to give you what you want. You deserve so much better than that. Make a start today by getting rid of his stuff. Flog it, donate it, chuck it. He after all chose to leave it. Ask yourself why a normal married couple would even have a man cave? You know the answer, so clear it our paint it pink and begin to leave your own life. You are wasting time on a guy you should not want to take back.
2016-03-15 01:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad that men are afraid to face this issue. Help him understand that his ED does not make him less masculine. He probably needs to see a therapist or something, but I guess he probably wouldn't go. Try to stroke his ego as much as you can and let him know how attracted you are to him. I hope you can work this out because this is harmful to a marriage. Keep trying to pursuade him to see a doctor. Lots of guys have diabetes and are still having sex.
2006-08-05 09:53:07 · answer #4 · answered by glitterprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to talk to a doctor. There are other options open to him other than Viagra, I cannot remember what it is called, but there is an injection that a man can give himself, that will give him an erection. He should not give up, I am sure then even with diabetes, there are some alternatives available through his doc.
2006-08-06 01:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to keep the blood sugar level under control, read the following paragraph to update your knowledge about diabetes:
You need not to panic to visit a doctor. There are no Allopathic medicines available in the market that will cure the diabetic conditions of humans but they will control the disorder up to certain levels. The disease is developed due to eating disorders and hereditary. In the first place, I have never accepted diabetes as disease but considered it to be a disorder. The medicine is readily available at home in the form of natural products and you need not to go to market to purchase expensive medicines. To keep the sugar level under control, follow my suggestions and see the difference. Drink the juice of one bitter gourd, one cucumber and one tomato on empty stomach before breakfast on a regular basis (drink this juice twice a day if you are insulin dependent) until you start feeling relief and your blood sugar level starts decreasing and continue further for a very long time until your sugar level reaches border line. The sugar level will certainly come down. Eat plenty of cucumber before meal to quench your thrust and to fill your empty stomach. Cucumbers are considered and proved to be very good for diabetic patients. Diabetic patients are always hungry to eat but can not eat all. Avoid banana, mango, custard apple and sweets like ice cream, pastry and cold drinks totally. If you are insulin dependent, even eating rice would be very harmful. You can eat fruits like guava, pineapple, pomegranate, papaya, muskmelon and watermelon. Taking one tea-spoon Fenugreek powder and quarter tea-spoon cinnamon powder on empty stomach, before breakfast daily, would be beneficial to diabetic patients. Regular brisk walking for one hour daily would be the best ideal medicine for diabetic patients. Cut down on non-vegetarian, fast, spicy and oily food, aerated cold drinks and foods rich in calories. Correct constipation. Avoid alcohol and tobacco also. Tea and coffee are also bad for health because they promote calcium excretion from the body and calcium loss from bones. Drink plenty of water daily. Take one tablet of Diabecon (By Himalaya an Herbal Health Care Company in India) twice a day as a maintenance dose.
Secondly, for your husband's ED, ask him to take TENTEX FORTE or TENTEX ROYAL tablets with hot milk added with rock sugar before mating (By Himalaya) and apply HIMCOLIN GEL (By Himalaya) on his penis as per the instructions given on the pack and he will have better sex drive to satisfy your sex desires. Take care and be in good health.
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2006-08-05 10:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by gie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋