ok, so my boyfriend of 2 years broke up w/ me about 3 months ago & I am still upset about it. Some days I hate him & other days I miss him & want him back. When he broke up w/ me he said @ first it was because I was possessive and then he told me he just wanted to be single for awhile. Well two weeks later he starts dating a girl who is 15 (he is 17) & she lives 3 hours away. And they only had met once before they started dating. I don't know what to do anymore. Ive been depressed for awhile & it feels like I will never get over it. Then school is going to start in like 2 weeks and Im really scared to see him because I haven't seen him all summer and I loved it but Im afraid when I see him @ school Im going to get upset and the progress I had made will be gone. Do you think that his relationship is just a rebound? And he will ever call me again to apologize? I just want some answers but I dont want to talk to him until they break up. What should I do?
2006-08-05 09:31:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
What I can tell you is this: It WILL get better.
Maybe for now it hurts to see him or even think about him. But eventually, those thoughts become few and far between. Soon, you'll think about him and realize that the pain is less. Eventually, when you think of him, you'll feel nothing. The relationship he has with this new girl probably won't last long, but most likely by the time they break up, you will have moved on.
There are some GREAT guys out there so don't give up hope. It just takes time.
Pamper yourself, surround yourself with people that love you, don't sit home idly watching depressing movies and listening to depressing songs. Do things that make YOU feel good.
*hugs and good thoughts*
2006-08-05 09:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you're 16 or 17...
You may have heard this a billion times, but it's true, so... it will pass.
I know it hurts and you're nervous about seeing him again, but I think school will be good for you. You've been out of school for a couple months, so school will get you out and socializing again. (just realized- did he break up at the end of school last spring?!?) Tell yourself that he's on the rebound, and either it will last or it won't. He dumped YOU- that's his loss.
Call up some friends and have a girls-only party. Celebrate your girl-power! Ban all mention of guys, boyfriends, etc. Eat chocolate, chips w/dip... pizza, whatever you want. Watch the movie "Cellular" (it's about a mom who gets kidnapped, but doesn't just throw up her hands and cry- she's smart, pro-active, etc.)
The one and only time I got back together with an ex-boyfriend... it was bad. I was quickly reminded why I'd broken up with him in the first place. So go ahead and cry, mourn the loss, then move on... who's the cutest guy in your class?... Go Get Him, Girl!!
2006-08-05 09:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an old fart and I have been through a broken heart more than once. I would recommend that you go out with your friends and get on with life. You will never move on if you keep on thinking about him. Being confident will show him that you are 1. Over him and 2. Didn't know how good you had it until he was out of the picture. Help others if you can and this will also help you to get your mind off of your own troubles. God Bless You!!
2006-08-05 09:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for you to move on and meet someone else and get involved with them. You never know, this person might be a better person than the old one. You're too young to be thinking about a serious relationship anyway.....enjoy life, play the field, let him know he's not the only one around, have a good time.
2006-08-05 09:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you crying over spoiled milk? hes gone!! he not sitting there thinking about you is he? obviously not because hes dating again and so should you. go out there and find someone that makes you happy and would not make you cry. i know u invested alot of time in him but thats what happens sometimes. but ur young! why waste time pouting on one guy when there are tons of other better guys out there.
oh and i think hes a loser... you dont say u wanna be single for a while and then start dating again.
2006-08-05 09:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of all of the things that are messed up about this situation, and refer to it whenever you start feeling like you miss him.
Forget about getting an apology and all that, the best thing to do is move on.
2006-08-05 09:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by mizchulita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the love that you have lost, look forward to the new love you will find. Think about the first time you will hold hands and kiss someone new.
If and when you see him, you should know, he probably is as nervous as you are. Even though he may not show it, he's probably scared too.
2006-08-05 09:40:12 · answer #7 · answered by myalterego 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do sound possessive, he's right. He obviously has gotten over this and so should you. There will be so many more oppurtunties to meet a guy who wants you the same way you want him.
2006-08-05 09:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear that...i think u should just forget about him and when u see him at school try to act like w/e and show him that ur strong even if inside u are weak and in pain. make it look like u are over it and that he lost a great girl
2006-08-05 09:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by Beca <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up on him. You sound young so that is why it's so confusing. Leave him alone. He has moved on, so should you.
2006-08-05 09:37:10 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋