You don't want to mess up their life with your health issues or the retirement they have worked years to enjoy. They have just been through a really tough divorce and have lost a whole bundle of that money they worked to retire on already.
Isn't it the kinder loving thing to tell them you love them and let them go make a life that is with someone who compliments their own wants than to hold them to staying with you knowing there will be a time when your nothing but a financial burden to them, and someone that can't go do the things with them that they always wanted to go do when they retired?
2006-08-05 09:22:05 · 5 answers · asked by yeller 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks all of your thoughts are very important to me.
2006-08-05 14:30:12 · update #1
The kindest thing to do is to be honest be your partner, let them know about your medical issues and then let THEM decide if they want to be "let go". What seems to be a burden to you may not be an obstacle to them. Plus, if they do stay with you, you'll know they are truly dedicated to you and the relationship.
2006-08-05 10:12:02 · answer #1 · answered by xentrikk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see what you are saying and I say talk to your lover. Right before my husband and I were to get married we found out that he had a congenital eye disease and would more than likely be blind by the time he was 30. He was 21 at the time and I was 19. We were both scared and he asked me if I still wanted to marry him. He was worried that when he did go blind that I would be the only one working to support our family. He didn't want me to be in that situation. I explained to him that I loved him for who he was NOT b/c he could see or not. He is now 24 and his vision has decreased drastically. We are trying our best to find a doctor to help us but the disease is too new, there is no treatment or cure. Many doctors have never even heard of it. He is still worried that one day I may leave him b/c of his eyes. I could never do that. And I think he has finally realized this. If this person really loves you they will stand beside you through whatever it is that is wrong. I think you should let them make the decision not just leave. I admire your thoughts of trying to save them the money that they have worked so hard to get but love is for better or worse. Sometimes we just have to take the worse before the better.
2006-08-05 14:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by cristons_mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you let the person you love make the decision whether to stay with you or not. It is very admirable what you want to do,but they might feel differently. Love to many people is more important than money. Let them decide,but you must be willing to accept their decision. Many times we say things we don't really mean. We just want to know if it is really love. I hope it is love. Good luck.
2006-08-05 09:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by mrsreadalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just explain your thoughts on the whole thing, that is probably a nice thing to do but if that person truly loves you then they'll never give you up
2006-08-05 09:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by mtugodfath3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know and see how it goes from there.
Uve got to tell him. If i was in his place i would really wanna know the reason ur breaking up with me.I think that's real.any how its ur call.
2006-08-05 09:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by Tetragrammaton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋