i had sex with 3 cousins when i was under the age of 13. a few of my family members no about it. when i see the cousins that i had sex with (like at family visits and such) i feel ashamed and we barely speak at all. what can i do? i have been living a life of regret, shame, embarrasment, guilt, and depression for 12 years now.
2006-08-05 08:30:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to forgive yourself and let it go. I got over my past which is not a happy one by the way is I gave it to God and He will take it from you and you don't ever have to think about it again. Your cousins need to stay way from you if they are older then you.
2006-08-05 09:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel that bad and can't let go then let go of the ties. Do not visit those family members move on with life so you can enjoy what's now. Just because they are family dose not mean you have to get along. Some mistakes just can't be fixed and if they are causing you to feel this way it's not worth the effort.
2006-08-05 08:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by American Pride 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you have to do is write down the facts of the situation only. The shame is not yours, it is theirs. You were to young to know any better. Find your fault in it if you can and then you will see it for what it was, abuse. We all have sexual feelings towards, but it sounds like your curiosity about sex was taken advantage of. Even if you liked it at the time, that is natural and nothing to be guilty about.
2006-08-05 08:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is true, first of all you have to forgive yourself for lack of knowledge. Second of all you need forgiveness from God. Third of all you need to forgive your cousins. You may need professional help from a medical professional. Be aware that state laws may bring this out in the open as some states do not have a statuatory limit on incest.
2006-08-05 08:45:22 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out into the woods. Find you an old dead stick. Grip it in your hand with all your might. As you're gripping it, "transfer" all those thoughts in to that piece of wood. Without looking back, toss it over your shoulder and walk away. Don't look back. All those feelings will be gone, left in that piece of dead wood, and you can be whole again. Try it!
2006-08-05 08:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a therapist, talking it through will help. You may need once you are done with your therapy to talk to your cousins about the situation as well.
2006-08-05 08:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋