keeps turning up in my work and being overly friendly we r both married he has asked me out 4 drink couple times i have 2 b polite as im at work how do i get rid of him?
2006-08-05 08:29:05 · 10 answers · asked by sarah71397 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can get his number and call him with your husband present. You can tell him that your husband is aware of his visits and that you want him to stop and cease all contact with you. Typically when a cheater is confronted he will slither away. They typically have no stomach for direct confrontation from the spouse.
If you have to interface with him professionally then you must tell him to stick to company business only.
This will further expand the trust your husband has for you and will bring him closer to you. If he persists at work then tell your boss that you're being harrassed at work. Your boss will deal with it through security.
Don't give this guy an inch. He is trying to reconnect with you for no good reason. He is not honorable and should be dealt with agressively.
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Good Luck
2006-08-05 08:46:28 · answer #1 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. I guess that I would be firm and straight to the point. Let him know that since you are married, there is just no way that you will be okay with going out to have a drink with him. If he still has a problem with it, then I would suggest you say something to your boss about it. There is no need for him to be doing that when you are on the job. Good luck!
2006-08-05 15:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him not to come to your work for any reason. That should be enough if he thinks he's a decent person who can now be your friend. It is possible to tell someone to respect your space politely.
As for getting rid of him permanently, you just have to speak up. Unless he really has something to contribute to your life, there's no reason whatsoever for him to be in it. You broke up for a reason and you probably have plenty of other friends who don't come with baggage.
2006-08-05 15:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by misslabeled 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember it he is your ex for a reason. Have you asked him to stop showing up at your work? Have you explained to him that you are happily married and do not wish to have even a casual friendship with him? Try telling him like it is, and how you feel.
2006-08-05 15:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boss this person is bothering you and making you very uncomfortable as you're married and he keeps hitting on you. Tell your husband too.
2006-08-05 16:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would pull him aside on one of his happenstance"trips" by your office and say look that's the past,this is our lives now.Now about about him being over friendly,I would let him do that,in fact I would eat it up,especially if he was a real jerk in your relationship,lol.
2006-08-05 16:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slip him a 'polite' note that says do this crap again and I will call your wife and let her know exactly what you are up to. I had one like that and this worked like a charm, he never bothered me again!
2006-08-05 15:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are happly married and you could not consider risking your marraige,if he's a friend he will understand and stop
2006-08-05 15:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by harley6455 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are married and are no longer interested. Be firm. After all, isn't he married also?
2006-08-05 15:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite him and his wife out for drinks.
2006-08-05 15:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋