Why do I get dirty looks when people see that I'm pregnant?

Question

My husband and I have our first baby on the way and he is due in september. We are both still in college and I have about a year and a half left. I'm only 21, so maybe it is because I look young. But I constantly get these looks when I'm walking around campus or from people in my classes. It bothers me really badly. The looks I get seem to suggest that people think I'm some serostitute that got knocked up at a party or they just look at me in pity. I am more than happy to be having my baby even though he did come a little unexpected, but women used to have baby's at a much younger age then what I'm at....why is it so taboo now?

Answer 1

I think it is probablly because you look young. People were the same way towards me when I was pregnant. I am 21 and married and have a beautiful daughter. thats all that matters to me. Those other people dont have what I have! I love my family more than anything. people tell me all the time Your to young to be married and have a baby! I tell them well Im happily married and finacially stable so who cares 21 is not a bad age. A bad age is 16 or 17. People need to stop worrying about what you look like or if your pregnant and worry about therself!!!
Congrats on the new little one and once you see him you will realize those dirty looks is well worth it! Good luck and god bless

Answer 2

Oh don't worry about what other people think. Congratulations on your pregnancy and good luck with the baby. I am a young mother myself and I had my first baby as a senior in high school, not married....Trust me I know the looks. You are not the the first young mother and certainly not the last. Just try to ignore them and don't let it get you down. Enjoy being pregnant and make the most of it, SLEEP all that you can, believe me you won't get much later on. I admire you for staying in college, don't quit or even put it off...stay focused on yourself, the baby and your husband. You have your happy family now, just let all those judgemental people have their dirty looks, but if it bothers you, just blurt out what are you looking at or do you have a problem....You don't have to be any age to be a good parent, so don't sweat it just do your best and I'm sure that will be great!

Answer 3

I know exactly what you are saying. I'm 24, married, and 35 weeks pregnant. First of all, I just want to say I don't care what people think. In fact, most people are really nice. My pregnancy has been a very positive experience, and my husband and I are thrilled to have "Lucy" on the way. These are just negative observations from a pregnant person.

Most people are really friendly and ask me the usual like "When are you do?" and "Do you know if it's a boy or a girl?" But, there are a lot of times when people look at me strangely. I don't have the slightest idea what they could be thinking. They will just look at me disapprovingly, they will stare at my stomach like they've never seen one before, they will also look for a wedding ring. I swear, they do it. I've seen them, and I'm not being paranoid.

Also I belong to a gym, and I've been using the elliptical several times a week since I found out I was pregnant. People have actually had the gall to come up to me while I'm on it to criticize me about working out while I'm pregnant. One old man said I'm harming my baby.

Lastly, I've noticed that there is not as much hospitality towards pregnant people as I thought. People don't hold doors, they don't offer to help you if they can see you need it, and they still cut in front of you in lines, etc. I don't expect to be put on a pedestal. I guess people just don't really understand that being pregnant makes everyday things just a teeny bit harder.

Answer 4

It is all jealousy. You have what woman want. I get the same thing. I am 25 with a 6 yr. old and a 3 yr. old. I am married, and I love the way my life is. People know that, because they see that you are happy with your life. Now a days divorce and single parenting is so common, and people are just jealous to see that you have it all. Plus the fact, you are still in college. Most woman who to this at a young age drop out of school. If you ask me, you should be a role model to show young moms to be, that it is possible.

Answer 5

Something is not quite right here. There is no taboo against having a baby. Are you dressing weird or acting strange? Unless you go to a school that is populated with extreme weirdos (which I sincerely doubt) then it must be your behavior. Take a real look at what you are doing to provoke this behavior in others. Change your attitude and see if that changes the attitude of other people. Congratulations on your little one to come.

Answer 6

Don't worry about the looks. Women want what you have. And as far as the comment up there about it being your fault don't listen to that idiot. Most women are VERY JEALOUS it doesn't matter about what. . You don't appear to be a person that doesn't carry your self right so 9 out of 10 it's not your fault. My opinion, you are married and this is the right age to start your family. And you are still in school. Congratulations!!!!!!
I am also 21 and my husband and I are also trying to start our family.So good luck!!!!

Answer 7

People are just ignorant. They feel they have the right to judge you and your decisions without knowing anything about it. I get dirty looks when I don't wear my wedding ring (hey, it's been 100 degrees and I'm 9 months pregnant! They don't fit!), so I know how you feel.
What matters is that you're happy, and your baby is coming into a loving home.
Good luck, and ignore them!

Answer 8

I don't know why people would do that. You are happy and married. What else do they expect? Maybe it is just because you look young. I was your age when my first son was born but I looked about 16. My dr didn't even believe my age when I first went in. I wouldn't let it bother me it I were you.

Answer 9

Well, you're NOT a sorostitute and you're happy to have this baby, so who cares what other people think? Maybe they think that pregnant girls shouldn't be going to school, although that sounds a little convoluted to me. In any case, I admire you for going to school and being pregnant. I'd have to drop out. So congratulations to you and your husband, and I hope the rest of the pregnancy goes well!

Answer 10

Because a lot of people without kids are jerks!

Those are the people that:
-do not invite children to their weddings
-glare at you when your kid makes any sort of 'peep' at a restruant
-roll their eyes when you are talking silly talk in the grocery store
-do not understand

I don't care. It is their loss. I have one awesome kid and one more on the way. Too bad for them that their ignorance is causing them to miss out on the miracle of life and the joys of parenting!