My fiance calls as soon as he leaves for work in the morning on his way to work and sees her all day at work. I recently discovered phone records where he has called her while out of town with friends on Saturday and Sunday as early as 7:00 in the morning while not even attempting to calll me.
2006-08-05 08:18:49 · 22 answers · asked by Sharon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He also calls her at the same times every night and has called as late as 3:00 in the morning.
2006-08-05 08:29:27 · update #1
Have you asked him? It does seem real odd and prob a high chance to it just dont jump all over him right away. ask him in a way that keeps the siuation to a minimal. And you got to be prepaird, do you want to be with him if he is sleeping around? or do you want him out? Just take a long look at everythign befor you act. good luck on everything
2006-08-05 08:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by gogo69er 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something is probably going on - either a relationship or sex. There is no reason anyone needs to talk to a co-worker that much. Especially when he goes out of town or is leaving for work. I mean, what can't wait until he gets to the office that he needs to call her right away?
You should talk to him about this and let him know how you feel. There is no reason his job or anyone at his job should be coming before his future wife.
2006-08-05 15:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if nothing else then it's "emotional infidelity". Is she physically competitive (is she hot enough to take your man away). This could be a sign that his emotional needs and maybe physical needs are not being met. You have two choices. One you could say he is demostrating a possibility to cheat in the future or two you are not answering the mail for his needs. You need to determine if his "cheating" (emotional or not) it must be addressed.
Check out the following website. It can answer your questions better than I can. It will also give you a "bird's eye" view of a guy's psyche.
http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/
Good Luck
2006-08-05 15:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you need to ask this question to a bunch of complete strangers before asking your FIANCE, then, re-think this relationship. If you are engaged to be married and you are afraid that confronting him will cause him to leave you, then you are not ready to marry him, and what you two have is not really love. You have to approach him gently (without admitting that you checked up on him behind his back!), and ask him about his relationship with her. It might be that they are, in fact, very good friends without anything sexual happening between them. If you are jealous of their friendship and feeling insecure, then, you are not ready to be married to this man. If you explain to him that his behavior makes you feel uncomfortable and insecure and ask him not to rely on her so much, but turn to you, and he refuses, then he is being selfish and does not care for you as much as he proclaims. Still, give him the chance to explain. If he denies it all, well, then, tell him about the phone records. That will do two things: 1. make him mad that you spied on him and probably make him leave you. 2. Give you the opportunity to move on with your life, with a man who cares about you and only you--a man that you trust completely.
2006-08-05 15:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep your eyes open. If you starts calling her at night, you may be in trouble. After gathering information, asked him and see how he responds. Then you'll have to make up your own mind, but based on this alone, it doesn't look very good. Don't yourself in a tizzy however. You don't have a tough information by itself to make a conviction. Gather more data. Then perhaps take her out to lunch and see how they respond to one another. Or just ask him
2006-08-05 15:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you know the answer to the question. I'm sure you want someone to tell you that they are just really good friends or they are talking about work, but I won't lie to you like that. Get out before it's to late.
2006-08-05 15:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea I definitely would think he was. I would totally talk to him about it try to catch him in a lie. Ask him how often he calls her is he says not that much...then whip out the phone bill and go midevil on his *** cause that would be a lie on top of him maybe cheating on you. get him girl!!
2006-08-05 15:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by lildevilchild_87 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call Cheaters! Try and set them up. Ask some of your fiance's friends about it. Ask people you trust.
2006-08-05 15:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by Stefy G. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that your relationship is over, sweetie! And, what were you doing snooping in his phone records??? You need to pack it in and move on. You have no trust and that is the basis for everything.
2006-08-05 15:23:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe not sex but definitely some kind of relationship going on there...that's not cool at all... maybe a friendship but that is way too much talking for friends...
2006-08-05 15:25:31 · answer #10 · answered by ilovechris!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋