i like guys iz this wrong?

Question

cuz my dad say if i dont turn straight he will kill me

Answer 1

Wow.

Just... wow. I've heard about parents being unaccepting of their children when they come out to them... but... wow.

Of course! It is NOT wrong at all to be homosexual. You know what IS wrong? Your father. This sounds so trite and cliche, but he should be accepting of who you are-- the whole world should be. Family should have love that transcends all boundaries, gay or straight. If he truly loves you, he'd accept you for who you are and move on. Sometimes families do not approve, but they should learn to at least tolerate it if they really love you for who you are, NOT for just the label that society chooses to put on sexual orientation.

It's appalling that he is threatening you like that. People don't truly change from mere threats-- I mean, you COULD say you are straight to appease him, but deep down, you'll most likely know you aren't and will always be who you are. Feelings change due to your own opinions not others.

What you should do is slap him, then kick him in the balls, then move out and move on.

Some families embrace their children no matter what, but if they don't, I say just tell them "thanks for taking care of me, but fck off because I don't need you anymore if you don't want to accept me"-- and then, don't forget the kick to the family jewels. That seems like it'd help deal with some pent up anger.

Wait. are you a minor still? Because the whole moving out, kicking in the balls may be going a bit overboard if you still need financial support from your family. To get legally emancipated is possible with the threat to your life, but it makes your life a heck of a lot more difficult, especially if you are a minor. Hopefully you aren't a minor and can just leave the hostile familial environment, but if you are, and can find NO WAY out of the household, this sounds wrong, but just... keep being who you are, but don't aggravate your relatives until you can leave their home.

Hopefully this helps. Contact me if you wanna talk about it!

+added on+
LOL. just read teise's response to your question-- what he/she said was sooo true. guys ARE hot. liking them is a MUST. (cuz who likes boobs anyway? it's all about the strong, hard chest, the masculine curves of their--- LOL, i'm literally giggling at this right now)

guys rock & so do you

Answer 2

It absolutely is not wrong. As for the issue with your dad, it isn't clear from your question whether he was really threatening to kill you, or if that was just a poorly chosen expression of frustration. However, If you really do believe that he might become violent, you have a few choices. You can try to avoid the issue by acting straight until you can move out. If this doesn't work, or if you don't want to lie about who you are, you should talk to a trusted adult like a teacher, counselor, aunt, uncle, etc or contact your local child protective services for help staying safe. If there is a GLBT support or advocacy group in your town, you could also contact them for advice on dealing with your family. And most importantly, if your dad does try to hurt you, get away and call 911 immediately. Hopefully your dad will get over the initial shock and remember how much he loves you, and hopefully this will happen soon. But even if he doesn't, remember, you haven't done anything wrong here. Best of luck sweetheart!

Answer 3

Hi there,
There is nothing wrong with you. One cannot help who one loves. By the tone of your question, it sounds as if you are not yet 18 years old, and you are still living at your parents' home. Ask yourself several questions... is your dad a violent person? will he carry out his threat? where does your mom stand on this issue?
If your life is truly in danger, contact your local Division of Family Services. If you are a minor, they can place you with a safe family until other arrangements can be made. Make sure that they know you are gay, so they can make sure they do not place you in the "wrong" environment... for example an overly religious family... You are lucky that it's summertime, in case you move you will not disrupt your schooling. Look in the Yellow Pages for county offices to find them. Do it soon... don't wait until it's too late. It doesn't mean that you don't love your family, but what a shame it would be to lose a beautiful person like you. Good Luck and God be with you....

Answer 4

your dad might kill you .... i thnk that is is not politically correct, ethically wrong, and inappropriate, however, i do believe that often times it is not a choice which is probably in your case, do i believe that you will go to hell, i do not know, have you repented all of your sins and accepted Jesus in your heart? You are no different from people that lie, steal, cheat, or anything other sin. You might have been born that way just like people are born blind, death, or any other defect. sorry to attribute being gay with those things but i do not think that it is normal because most people are straight ...good luck and tell your dad to accept you and love you as you are ... get over it ... you could be a murderer or a rapist, or just an awful awful person .... i hope that is not the case

Answer 5

You can't help it if you like guys, but you can control how you act around your father.

Your father probably had ideas of his son having a wife and kids. Your desire to be with guys has disappointed him. He is probably also embarassed due to social issues. He may even think he has done something to cause this. Many people think that homosexuality is a mental problem, and many think it is a choice. Your feelings are not a choice. Your behavior is.

My advice is to keep your feelings to yourself. Maybe it is more than your father can handle. Give him time to deal with this. Your father is important in your life, so if you don't make this an issue, maybe things will improve and you will get your father back.

Answer 6

It depends on how old you are, but with your dad already giving you a hard time, it's time to make some calls-- gay center and other local gay organizations. If your dad is serious about hurting you, or you're afraid, you need to contact PFLAG- they are a nat'l support group for gay people and their families/friends. If he does threaten you, you need to have a safe place to go to - with a trustworthy adult. Check out teachers, school counselor, relative, family friend,etc. Hope for the best but prepare for the worst. Since he has already expressed his hatred of homosexuality, you need to do this NOW. Do not wait to see if things get better. That can take place after you are in a safe house. PLEASE. Take care.

Answer 7

I agree with what some of these people have said... you need to move out. You have your own life to live now. Do NOT let someone else tell you what to do. My father came to me in the exact same direction. And as harsh as it may sound. He is not in my life anymore. If he can not see me for who and what I am... then he should not have the priveledge of having or even knowing me anymore. Because he doesn't. I understand what you are going through. You need to go on.

If you are wearing this amazing white top and spill something on it... don't fret. Go home, change, then go on. That's all...

Answer 8

If this is really true the best thing to do is to keep your lifestyle out of his view. But eventually he might get over it. I don't think he really meant that. I was around 11 when I asked my mom how would she feel if a family member was gay and she said she would disown them. From that point on my personal life was seperated until she demanded I involve her in my life. Still thats a hard habit to break.

Answer 9

Depending on how old you are you need to stop bringing up the subject till your out of the house,For your dad to threaten to kill you is serious business.When your out of the house you can live your life the way you want.If your already out of the house you will have to detach yourself from your dad.When he accepts your lifestyle he will come around or will have lost a Son.You cant change.Good luck son

Answer 10

Well u're dad cant kill u cause he'll go 2 jail, an I know he doesnt want that. But he should that time 2 unedrstand u. Like what happened, or y u have these feelings. Where is u're mom? She might understand what goin on wit her son. Think'a bout it...