your spouse said that she/he would want your bank cards and credit cards after marrying you n claimed s/he would use them for common needs n said s/he would give money to you when you have a special need.Would u accept this?My boyfriend said this to me n I got yery angry.I wonder if I should have said OK to prove my love to him.
2006-08-05 08:00:23 · 7 answers · asked by pinkturtlebursa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you were right to say NO.
you should instead set up a joint Bank account for shared bills like groceries, taxes, rent/mortgage etc.
you then each deposit a minimum of 50% of your income in to that account as much as is needed to cover the bills and to save for an annual holiday for example.
the remainder of your money you spend on your self or on family and friends for birthdays and other special events. and save the rest for special unexpected events such as if one of of you were out of work for any amount of time.
however saying all that your partner sounds a little controlling I'd advise getting out of that relationship as i suspect it will not only be your money he will want to control, i suspect he will end up attempting to dictate when and with whom you go out with.
just my opinion.
2006-08-05 08:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy way to solve this dilemma. You both came into the marriage with yor own bank and credit cards. Keep those.
No, go down to the bank and open a joint account and get joint credit cards. Say that is the account and cards we will both use to pay all expenses and decide how much each person puts in month to month.
That's the common sensical approach. If your spouse disagrees, tell her well, sorry, but why was this not discussed before we got married. It's why you should talk everything out BEFORE you get married or live together.
2006-08-05 15:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by fugutastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to this cat like a clear case of potential financial abuse. That way the other partner can control how much money the other has and knows every cent that they have. Tell your future husband to grow up and that you have been able to manage your own money this far in your life and that you want to continue. Who knows they may be financially irresponsible and charge the cards to the max, drain your account then hit the road. And who would you blame then - other than yourself. Best of luck with this situation.
2006-08-05 15:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him that a joint account were you both have bank cards and credit cards is ok. i would not beg my husband for money. i clean our house, take care of our 3 kids and prepare all the meals and take care of him and still make time for him when he is horny and wants to play.
2006-08-05 15:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RED ALERT! If he can't trust you with the bank cards, he's not going to trust you with anything else! End this relationship IMMEDIATELY!
2006-08-05 15:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 fight between couples is money. I've found the best way to avoid such disputes is to try to keep money separate.
2006-08-05 15:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by Islandkiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt, i watched to much judge judy to know where that would end. just explain to him your feelings about this. but if he doesnt understand your point i wouldnt bother with him.
2006-08-05 15:11:30 · answer #7 · answered by amythys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋