My husband had a drug addition and was in a rehab in late 2002-mid 2003. Since then he has turned his lfe around, becoming the man I always knew he could be. Today I discovered that while away he had corresponded with a "former" friend of mine on what looks to me, to be more than just a friend level. I had been suspicious of them just before he went away, but they both made it seem like I was crazy. In '03, I left him because of the drugs and filed for divorce and then met someone. Today, while cleaning, I found a old notebook he has on the shelf (not hidden at all) which contain dated poetry from 2003 all of which were to me. BUT I found her name & address w/ stars around it on an address list in the back of this book. I asked him why he had her name in this book she wrote him while he was away. I never knew this. He pleaded with me to believe him that nothing happened. He is, as a part of his recovery usually very honest, but I am so confused - I feel so betrayed - HELP
2006-08-05 07:51:58 · 8 answers · asked by ladylaw_912 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we are still together by the way
2006-08-05 07:57:08 · update #1
You should trust him and be glad that he is in recovery. You left him during that time anyways so it's really not of your concern. You are right, part of his recovery is being honest. Maybe he just liked having some one else to talk to who wouldn't judge him or leave him. Go to a counselor if you need to talk it out or sit down and have a serious talk with him and let him know that secret relationships, no matter how platonic or innocent, isn't something you can handle.
2006-08-05 07:57:33 · answer #1 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think give the man a break, if you hold something against him that happened a time ago then whats the point of having a relation,, you say in your own words he is honest and he certianly has qonqured a bad drug problem, you should be careful cos he may end up back in the hole with drugs again
good luck
2006-08-05 07:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by SPACEGUY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK.. Step Back..
He wasn't hiding it.. he told you straight up that she wrote to him.. when he could have lied...
And your confused? It sounds like you haven't really let the past be the past.. and that while he is at fault for what he did in the past with the drugs.. it is not his fault about how you feel now... he was honest and straightforward...
If you are having problems dealing with the past you need to see a professional to work through your issues
2006-08-05 07:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU'RE CONFUSED! You should see the puzzled look on My face! You have divorced your husband and now you are with someone else? and you are still seeing your ex-husband? and you found some info about past "friends"?Oh, by the way, you are right to feel betrayed! "cause you HAVE BEEN!
2006-08-05 08:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by Pooks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess for now you have to trust him. But, I would be very wary after finding that kind of information. Give him some time, see if anything else occurs, go from there. See how you feel then.
2006-08-05 07:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has been all he should be since then, let it go. After all, it's history now. He has turned his life around, and is moving on in it. Let sleeping dogs lie!
2006-08-05 07:56:46 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is obviously a VERY painful experience for you -
Talk it out with someone you trust - not Yahoos at Yahoo. . .
2006-08-05 07:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldnt really matter unless you think you guys have a chance for a relationship again.
2006-08-05 07:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by Bree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋