Hello every one, i am really afarid right now, because i had sex with my x-gf about 4 times, and she wanted me to pull out those 2 out of 4 times, and since i was new at sex i didnt know if i did or not. my parents know that i had sex with her, i am just really scared, because my future is going to hell, i am freaking out, what should i do. The girl who i dtaed doesnt want to have kids, so should i tell her to tell her mom, that she is pregnant, and needs to get a aboriton, HELP ME!!
2006-08-05 07:49:07 · 32 answers · asked by Bert 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Before you go nuts, get her to have a pregancy test. And from now on use condoms!!!
2006-08-05 07:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was within 3-5 days she could take the Plan B Emergency contraceptive pill. Try locating a Planned Parenthood around your area:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/portal/medicalinfo/birthcontrol/
***this site contains info on how to get the Plan B script
here is some info on providers
http://ec.princeton.edu/providers/index.html
First, be aware that the directory of providers is not 100 percent fail proof. Although each provider requested to be listed as someone who prescribes emergency contraception, sometimes the staff may not know about emergency contraception or that the office provides it. If you explain where you got the telephone number, the person who answers the phone might be able to help. However, s/he may not. In that case, we strongly encourage you to let us know by leaving a message on the toll-free Hotline 1.888.NOT.2.LATE or by sending an email to ec@opr.princeton.edu so we may follow up.
Where do you live? If New York, the service at Rochester has been closed. But there is another call-in prescription service in New York:
A group of family physicians with special knowledge about EC in New York State can call a prescription in to the pharmacy of your choice. There is no charge for this service. Please call the pharmacy in advance and confirm that (1) it has Plan B and (2) it is open during the hours you want to get the prescription. You may call between 8 AM and 9 PM Eastern Time. When you call, please have the name, address and phone number of the pharmacy. You may reach a physician by calling (917) 626-9627. This is a cell phone, so someone will answer the phone to talk to you. If no one is available, please leave your name and a phone number, and someone will call you back within the hour.
call or email this man:
James Trussell
Professor of Economics and Public Affairs
Director, Office of Population Research
Wallace Hall, Princeton University, Princeton NJ 08544
Tel: 609-258-4946; Fax: 609-258-1039
Email: trussell@princeton.edu
Website: http://www.wws.princeton.edu/~trussell/
2006-08-05 07:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, confirm that she is pregnant then start to work out your plan. You two seem pretty young, so when you do find out if she is, then tell your parents. Even though this girl is your ex, you two have to talk and figure out what to do. If anything let her have the baby and give it up for adoption or let her be a surragate mother for a family who can not have kids. You two are not ready for a child. Make sure though you both have a talk with your parents and her parents at the same time. Trust me, if she has an abortion, she will regret it later. I hope everything works out and I hope that she isn't pregnant. Come to think of it why on earth weren't you using a condom and why isn't she on birth control??
2006-08-05 07:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by Elora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i see ppl are telling you that you fu*ked up and to use a condom but im pretty sure you know that by now.This same thing happend to my 2nd cousin.Your going to have a long, hard road ahead of you and i do not think she should get an abortion.. And i hope this helps you out. If and When (If she is pregnant) she has the baby and her or your parents say no to keeping it you should give it up for adoption.Tell her parents is the thing you need to you...as well... This stuff coming up is going to be the hardest thing EVER for you...if you get through this ok you we'll be able to do anything...just keep your head up high and you said she was your ex? You NEED to make up with her. I hope this helps and i want you to contact me when this all works out
2006-08-05 08:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she cannot get an abortion, even if she is pregnant and doesnt want kids, an abortion is the worst thing in the world. your killing an innocent life that hasnt gotten its chance to live yet. so for starters dont have her get an abortion, just stick with her if she is pregnant, and dont leave her, and help her out as much as possible. just stick with her through the whole time and take care of her and help her take care of the baby. and if she really doesnt want to have a baby talk to her about it, explain to her why an abortion is not the right thing to do, and if when she has the baby still does not want it, have her put it up for adoption. but talk to her about everything. good luck. :]
2006-08-05 08:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by yourrad_letsmakeout♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, DON'T tell her to get an abortion!! Second of all, you should step up and be a man. You acted like an adult, now it's time to be one. Both you and your ex-girlfriend. You both need to sit down with your parents and all talk about it. Maybe she will want a baby after she feels it moving. Or maybe she can give it up for adoption to a family that isn't able to have children. And how do you even know she's pregnant? Please, don't kill the innocent baby! I will pray for both of you and the situation you have gotten yourselves into.
2006-08-05 07:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by sean's_mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to calm down b/c you are not even for sure if she is pregnant. Go buy her a pregnancy test so that you will know for sure. Also, you should not tell her to get an abortion b/c you know what condemns are, don't you? If not, you should not have been having sex to begin with!
2006-08-05 07:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't Panic!! There are other solutions than abortion. Starting a sexual relationship with a girl means that you need to be responsible for your actions. Only time will tell if she is pregnant. You need to talk with both sets of parents and if they are in agreement to allow the two of you to continue in a sexual relationship please use protection in the future. If she is pregnant she should give the child up for adoption.
2006-08-05 07:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by flutter_butter_fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
new to the game, huh??? Using protection should have been your first priority!! IF she is pregnant, then you both should discuss your future and your childs. I think that if your parents and her parents knew about it, it would be a good idea. Go to them together. Tell them that you two are in love, anad you know that you m,ade a mistake...(IF SHE IS PREGNANT)....and that you need their help. Tell them that you need them to be calm and rational. So, go get the test. If she is, go talk to the paarents. If she's not.....USE PROTECTION!!!!!
2006-08-05 07:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by angela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you did a very adult thing having sex, you should have used protection. She's an idiot for not wanting children but not using condoms, you should tell her mom and yours, they can help support you in making the right choice.
2006-08-05 07:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will eventually have to tell someone if she is prego. Not to scare you more or anything but even if you did pull out everytime there is still a chance she would hagve gotten pregnant. Pulling out is not a reliable form of birh control.
2006-08-05 07:53:36 · answer #11 · answered by Diamond Freak :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋