I am recently divorced(march of this year) I feel like such a loser cause I tried really hard to keep my marriage together and I cant get over feeling like a loser and failure I did not want the divorce he did I paid for it now he is with someone else he does not pay child support like he should I struggle to take care of our daughter what should I do?
2006-08-05 07:48:06 · 5 answers · asked by thentges07052003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get yourself a good lawyer!!! He should be paying child support!!! Make him pay!!! Why should you be struggling??? Take care.
2006-08-05 07:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your divorce.You have tried your level best to save your marriage and its not your fault.Think you must asked him during divorce for the maintenance money towards your daughter.Plesae consult a lawyer as its very difficult for you to look after the daughter.Make him commit towards the expense of the child.You can get some job to look after yourself and your daughter.You can really do it.Take some job for present and later when you get good job leave the child in child care centre or to your parents.I know its not easy to take up a job as you might not have job exeperience.But its much better than sitting and regretting about your life.First go to a lawyer and consult regarding father's support to the child financially and then take a job which will keep you busy and help you in not thinking of the past and which will definitely make you feel stronger as you can manage without male's support.Go on.You can do it.My advance wishes for your bright career.
2006-08-05 15:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by rajan kumar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know how you get over it, except to concentrate on you and your daughter. Taking care of yourselves and getting on with your life. You will not get over it completely, but you will get to a new place where you can get past it, actually do things without thinking about him. One person can not keep a marriage together alone, it takes both of you. I'm kind of going through the same thing now, except we're not divorced. I feel in my heart that he is already emotionally gone, I can't seem to do anything right. So when you figure it out, let me know.
2006-08-05 15:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by buggoff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one you are not the loser he is . From what you say you are still in love with him. Until you except the fact that he is gone the feelings you are feeling will not go away. He left you knowing that you still loved him that in my book makes him the looser.. I know it is hard right now but i think it is time to move on . Some where out there is a man that will treat you like the lady you are. good luck and i hope this helped.
2006-08-05 15:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by mcander01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to make it or break it. So, don't blame yourself for it all. It seems to me that a lot of the blame is on him. The loser is your ex if he can't even take responsibility for his own children.
2006-08-05 15:37:17 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋