I have been in a relationship with this guy for 2 years, we used to do everything together. We had a lot of fights some that became violent. He has cheated on me, I have cheated on him. I have a 6 month old son whom he is the father of . He got busted for DUI and was deported from this country. He wants me to pay his way back into this country but I don't know. I am running lower on dough everyday . I do not have a job ,but have some money in the bank. I need to get a job and go back to college, I went to college before but this relationship has proved distracting . Also I may have a health problem that needs to be addressed , which could have the potential of being serious. Plus I have no health insurance and will end up financing this I'm sure. I miss him alot and he is good with our son . He costs me so much money and so many tears all the time though .Should I go get him or let him go ?
2006-08-05 07:36:57 · 26 answers · asked by primamaria04 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hell ****** nooooo !!!! Hes using u. He picked the right one.
2006-08-05 07:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go, cold as that sounds. He is looking for a free ride in every respect. You have a chance to move on and make a quality life for you and your son. Don't throw that chance away on this deadbeat.
It doesn't sound like there was much of a relationship anyway. He won't support you, he won't help you, he won't love you. Resume your life and wait for someone responsible who cares for you and your son. I know it's hard. But think of your life five years from now with him and without him. Ten years? Do you see a strong, independent, self-sufficient, successful woman or one struggling to support a son and this non-contributor?
2006-08-05 14:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by AK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course you miss him he "needs" somebody to solve his problems for him, but move on. By staying in a destructive relationship you will be teaching your child that it is acceptable to be disrespected and abused and used. The father can maintain a relationship with his son without you if he chooses. Go to any woman's center or YWCA and get counseling. Help your child be mentally health, but you taking care of your self first.
2006-08-05 14:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by vicki w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go NOW, and get on with your life. Look at his history: Violence, drunk driving, cheating, etc. Do you imaging he is going to change over time? Of course not. He'll only get worse. If this is what hes like after only 2 years, imagine it after 5 years.
Find someone who's good, responsible, loyal, non-violent, not a drunk, and stop bailing this moron out. Think of your son, and get your life together. Get a job, get a degree, move on.
2006-08-05 14:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can confidently tell you HELL NO, DO NOT pay for this low life man to enter back into the country. You would be stupid and out of your damn mind if you would even consider to pay for him. Leave him be, and spend your money on important things like you said - going to school, finding a job, taking care of your kid. Trust me you will find someone that will be better for you and your kid. Don't waste time on losers. If he wants to come back, let him find his own way back, don't waste money on him.
2006-08-05 15:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by Jamacaray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAVE YOU LOST YOUR MIND?
NO, let him dig himself out of this hole. There is no way you can justify spending money on this guy...especially when it is money you could be spending on this kid.
If he REALLY wants to come back, then he will get off his a$$ and GET HIS OWN JOB, WITH HIS OWN MONEY, and get himself back to you and your son ON HIS OWN.
Focus on your son and getting a job/education.
Clearly he wasn't thinking about you or your son when he got into legal trouble, so put him on hold, and do what is right.
2006-08-05 14:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you made a mistake with that guy. I would learn from it and move on if I were you. At least you got something worth saving from that relationship. your baby. Go to college and give your child a future. if you don't I promise you will regret it for the rest of your life. he may be good with the kid but he will futilely destroy its future. I am sure you don't want that on your conscience.
2006-08-05 14:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by novamouy17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl no!! if you a good woman you can find a good man.....if he is that much trouble move around. Really! dont be like I have been and most women who go back to abusive relationships because of fear to get involved with anyone else. Been there, moved around....now I am happier then ever! Good Luck!
2006-08-05 14:40:40 · answer #8 · answered by AUDREY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am wondering how stupid are you??? DUH!!!! What is the matter with you!!! Lucky you to be rid of this foreign asshole. Cut off all communication and get back to school. You are the one who royally screwed your life up now it is up to you to straighten it out. Every time I read a story like yours, the girl always tries to justifiy the deplorable behavior by saying just what you did..."he is good with our son"......oh, will you please stop that!!!! If you have any more to do with him then you are asking for a continued miserable life and then you will have to stop whining and complaing about it because people are sick of people like you!!! You have multiple problems and a child to care for.....you are luckier than most in your position because that asshole is out of the country........make your choice, sweetie!
2006-08-05 14:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go and start working on becoming a good person so your son won't grow up thinking that cheating and beating is okay.
2006-08-05 14:41:47 · answer #10 · answered by VOLLEYBALLY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I dont think your ready for a serious relationship with anyone right now. Any relationship where theres cheating and/or physical violence should be ended as quickly as possible.
2006-08-05 14:41:41 · answer #11 · answered by Pu7s3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋