In other words, how do I get me some anal when she's very scared about it hurting?
2006-08-05 07:32:08 · 20 answers · asked by yoursisterispurdy2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thumb it first but just the outside do this while you do her doggie and then slowly work it in i mean slowly and use alot of lube this will take weeks then you might be albe to use your own tool besides your thumb
2006-08-05 07:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't, if she's not interested she isn't and you pushing her to try something she doesn't want to try is just ignorant. Imagine that she made you things you hate for dinner for a week or two and said oh come on try it, you say no i'm allergic to that, she says oh come on try it. Do you feel disrespected and uncared for, like your thoughts and opinions don't matter? She will if you keep this up. If you wanted anal you should have married a porn star.
Besides if she is afraid of it hurting I guarantee it will hurt. This whole deal is about a whole bunch more than just anal sex, its a state of mind, its about completely trusting the person you are with (and she doesn't apparently). Are you willing to do it? If you aren't why should she be? Why can't you just be happy with the sex you do get? So many men make this mistake, if she does one thing you want another and if she does that you want something else, you know what you get in response to that attitude? She starts to think, hmmmm nothing is ever good enough for him so why should I bother to do it at all, he doesn't appreciate it anyway. Have you ever met someone that is never content with anything you do? Don't you just quit trying, quit caring what that person thinks? You are turning sex in to a point of contention, keep that up and she will no longer want it because once it becomes something with bad feelings attached to it in her mind YOU don't get it anymore. Then you'll be here asking what happened because your wife doesn't want you. You need to decide whats more important, your stupid penis or YOUR WIFE (hopefully you don't have to think about that)!
Use nightshadows theory and keep trying to stick stuff in there when she doesn't want it there you will end up getting nowhere near her, I know the first time someone did that to me I'd tell them not to, if they tried it a second time it would the last time I had sex with him. That is a terrible way to try to deal with a woman.
2006-08-05 07:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look, forget about anal. Aside from the fact it's disgusting, and not sanitary, it's also not healthy and the reason it hurts is because you're driving right into oncoming traffic. She has a perfectly good coochie just waiting for you concentrate on that and don't force her to do something she doesn't want to do. Get a clue.
2006-08-05 07:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by schenzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her that there is no danger. Graba dildo and fiddle with it up your a4$%%. Meanwhile make pleasure sounds and tell her Yes Yes YES! Faster Faster! If she is not convinced tell her how much fun you had. Be careful she might leave you for the dildo!
Also, you might consider therapy and cutting off the dirty movies.
Those things sell movies.
Also there are women who enjoy that and women who do not. Just like there are men who enjoy that and men that do not.
Do you get the point?
If you do not, write me an email and I will send a drawing!
I think you are not sure of your sexual orientation.
2006-08-05 07:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by butzunake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with cunnilingus...and a finger
The very very best way to go about anal is to begin orally: for me at least, a finger in the *** makes cunnilingus about a million percent more enjoyable. a few orgasms into the session, another finger can be added. a few minutes of this, and you'll be practically begging for anal sex... and you'll be both physically prepped and mentally ready for it.
2006-08-05 07:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by lustfulfaerie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got to try the 'reach around' getting her really wet in front for natural lube -as well as synthetic lube, also as little alcohol and maybe even a pain killer or 2 (vicodin might do it) You've got to keep in mind, for some women it really hurts, be gentle, and start slow.
2006-08-05 07:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by prankstar1328 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what worked for my husband was alcohol, and a good water-based lube. drinking before hand does help to numb the pain for the first time :)
hope that helps
2006-08-05 09:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by Fluffington Cuddlebutts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does cause anal fissure and anal ulcers. Maybe she is right.
2006-08-05 07:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her break your knot with a broom handle
2006-08-05 07:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by Bullwinkle Moose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her do you up the butt with a toy...
LOL @ Balloon knot!
2006-08-05 07:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Anthrope 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋