I'm 16 and find it difficult to go up to new ppl (boys & girls) & say hello. Anything i can do 2 b less shy?

Answer 1

you may want to join a social club where many people meet for the first time,or try volunteering for a drop in centre or similar where you talk to people of all ages and backgrounds this can help in building up your social skills and your apprehension of meeting and greeting new people.

Answer 2

OK If You Can Try And Find A Magic Shop And Buy A Few Tricks Then Just Show A Few People In A Shop, Bar, Club Anywhere Really, And People Will Be Curious At What You Are Doing And Come And Have A Look. I Am Just Like You And It Works For Me.

Answer 3

I have always been shy although since i was your age this has improved quite a lot . Try volunteering somewhere or joining a club or group. I think it is helpful to volunteer somewhere where you can help people who have serious problems . It improves your self esteem.
If you find it difficult to look people in the eye try looking at the gap in between their eyes. They will not be able to tell the difference .
Just be yourself and have confidence in your ability to be liked. If you have a positive attitude new people will probably approach you first especially after you leave school .
Don't take any notice of CHRIS HORN will you? . That kind of thing is dangerous. It's unreal what some people believe.

Answer 4

There are no 1-2-3 instructions that could be easily and concisely provided. But change, believe it or not--especially at your age--starts by first accepting how you truly are. Only then can you address what parts could be varied and for what purpose. You can't stop being yourself. I do believe in transformation but, again, in order to truly transform you have to accept yourself unconditionally. If you don't like yourself, that's going to show somehow in your personality and even unconsciously can lead others to dislike you. So first, work on liking yourself as you are, then do some meditation (there are many books available). That will show you insights about what steps you can step to make your personal situation better. Seeing a counselor or therapist CAN be helpful but it's not universally helpful, unless there were to be a serious emotional illness (if no one other than yourself has complained about you, chances are you don't have one). I'm a mental helath professional myself and I'll be the first to tell you that psychology and psychiatry know very little about change, except thru the use of medications and by "learning" new behaviors. That might be about as much as people expect but personally I have trouble with a field (behavioral sciences) that has such limited understanding of what it's supposed to address. Meds can be useful but we rely on them too too much in this day and age. One last detail and secret: I used to be very shy myself. People usually don't tell you this, but it tends to get better with age. Unless you have a phobia of going out and mingling with people (that's a truly irrational, intense, uncontrolled fear, the kind that greatly limits your everyday life) by just going ahead with life, you'll see your difficulty diminish. Plus you always run into people who don't have anything against others with your difficulty and who will gladly approach you first!

Answer 5

"Hello, I'm *name*. I don't think we've met. What's your name?..."

That usually works. Of course you have to get to the person first.

Who do you admire (for their confidence, looks, attitude etc)?
Imagine they have possessed your body and that when you look in the mirror you are that person.

When you walk over to the new people, imagine it is the admired person walking over to them: how would he/she do it? Would he/she walk with a bad posture and a frown? Would he/she walk with confidence?

Use the converation starter (above) and then be yourself again. If you find it hard being yourself having spoken to them for a while, ask yourself - are these people I really want to be friends with?

Answer 6

I would say, take the dive and you'll feel better for trying and it would help build your confidence.

If you may not enjoy it at first but the more you do it, the more you'll enjoy it and more confident you will become.

Everyone likes to be talked to and meet new people, so don't be scared what they'll think.

Answer 7

just try to work with your shyness, i was the same way, i wouldnt talk to anyone and now i talk to everyone. start small and work yourself up. when sitting in class offer the person you dont know next to you a piece of gum or something. or if you walk up somewhere and sit down on a couch or bench next to a kid you dont know, when you sit down next to them say hey im so and so, how are you today? and make conversation with them. slowly put yourself outside of your shell and youll become more comfortable with other people.

Answer 8

You can try practicing on people whom you don't care too much about, whether it might go wrong or not. Build up confidence that way, so that you're less insecure when it comes to people who might matter.

Answer 9

Try and acquire old style showmans megaphone and you won,t need to go near them,effective at up to 200mtrs.

Answer 10

I have gotten, better, though, when I was younger, I was "Painfully" shy,.........I think alot of that, was stemmed, from my Abusive-Childhood, however.......I got save, in my 20s, and didn't really get a "One on One" relationship with Jesus, until, years later........But, once I did, I hungered for the word, of God.....And in the bible, there's a scripture, you could repeat, everytime, you "Freeze-Up"....that goes like this...... Satan, I rebuke you , in the Name of Jesus,,,,,,My God, has not given me a Spirit, of FEAR, but, of Love & Power, and of a "Sound-Mind !!! And once, you believe, those,words, your whole perspective of life, people, places, and things, will begin to have a "Whole New Meaning" and you will then, want to know more about this Wonderful God of "Ours"!!! The bible is also a weapon against darkness, and fears, and everything like it !!! Satan, himself is out to make us all, paralyzed, in some sort of way, or another, he comes, like a Roaring Lion, seeking whom , he can Devour, the bible says.......And if he can use fear, hate, music, other people, anything & everything, he can , to keep us all Isolated, and alone.........Or to just flat-out, Destroy, us, our relationships, with others, you name it.....Anything that makes us, feel "YukkY!!!" is definately from the devil, himself!!! Because, God is for us, not against us!!! And God wants to see us "Succeed" in everything we do, unlike satan, who only wants the worst, to come to us!!! We really have nothing to "Fear", except Fear, itself...... Try to remember that scripture, I wrote earlier, and if you want a bible, you can refer too.......You can always, get your phone book , out, and look up any Churches of God, or Presbyterian, or Foursquare Churches, and tell them, about your situation, and how bad, you want to be "Delivered" from it, and they will be "Happy" to pray for you, and then tell them, you would like to know how, to receive a bible......Church people, from those, kinds I mentioned, are just like all of us, as down to earth, as you can find,Good People, they are!!! So, dont be afraid to just simply pick up the phone & call, them, you dont have to join, or even go, .....They'd probably give you , one, even without, going.......Good-Luck, to you, and I'll also say a prayer, for you, okay.......