when you suggest it he says not right now?
I was pregnant before and i lost the baby ever since he says he wants to marry me and try again for another baby. So i suggest we do it right away but he says he needs me to give him time to save up for a ring.
Engadgement rings can be pretty cheap priced.
Does he not love me is he just telling me he wants to marry me and let time go by to shut me up?
its been 4 months since i lost my baby
2006-08-05 06:39:29 · 23 answers · asked by lovesugarkisses 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oyster bay bob, hes 24 im 19 so hes sexual hormons are not as much as mine, he even suggest for us not to have sex for a week or too so it feels better.
2006-08-05 06:55:43 · update #1
This guy is not serious about marrying you. He is making too many excuses. A guy who is serious will do whatever it takes to make you his wife. This guy is playing games. You need to decide what you want to do. How long are you willing to be in this position? How long are you willing to wait on him? If you stay with this guy you better be prepared to be his girlfriend for many years to come because the time is not soon when you will be his wife. Move on and find a man who truly wants you in his life and forever by his side.
2006-08-05 06:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if it's only been 4 months, then it hasn't been that long since you lost your baby and maybe too soon to consider marrying and trying for another baby. Losing a baby is very difficult, and I'm sorry for your loss. Consider that it might also be difficult for your boyfriend to deal with, and maybe he needs more time to recover emotionally and prepare himself for such a huge decision as marriage is. I'm sure he also wants to give you the best possible ring, so he is saving up as much as possible. You might gently and subtly tell him that price and the amount of carats of diamonds do not matter to you, that you will be happy with a decent ring and don't need an expensive one. You can say you'd rather save up more money for your wedding and future child than to keep saving it up for one ring.
I do not know him or you, but I'm going to guess that he really does love you if he told he wants to marry you and try for another child. 4 months is not so long in the scheme of things, so just give it some more time and patience. Marriage is a big decision, so do not rush into it or pressure anyone into it, and hopefully things will work out for the best. Good luck and God bless!
2006-08-05 06:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a rule of thumb, a man tells you exactly the truth about what is on his mind at all times. He's just looking out for the practical aspects of being married is all.
The way to deal with this is to sit him down and have a serious discussion. Tell him you definitely want to get married and soon, so you want to set a specific date and/or a specific goal for what's needed to get married (ie a target goal of money saved up, buying a specific ring, setting up living arrangements etc.)
2006-08-05 06:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in such a rush to get married? It sounds like you are putting a lot of pressure on him to get married and have a child. If you are confused by his intentions, be patient with him and give him some time to take care of things, whether it be saving for a ring (yes, rings are expensive) or whatever. Marriage is for a lifetime and should not be rushed into.
2006-08-05 06:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the thought that matters.Ask your boyfriend to get you less expensive ring and get married.Let him commit himself.You can get expensive ring once both are settled.Think your boy friend is scared of commitment but at the same time loves you and feels sory for the baby. Just let him know that all you ask is his commitment towards marriage and to get married as early as possible.Since both of you are quite young its best to conceive a baby once both of you are well settled and are committed to each other.Best wishes to your married life.Hope everything works out for you.
2006-08-05 07:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by rajan kumar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i proposed to my fiance without the engagement ring,but i will propose to her again once i have the ring.
and i wouldnt just settle for some cheap engagement ring just to hurry the marriage along...i had her pick it out so i know its something she will enjoy for the rest of our lives together. cheap ring equals no time or effort in finding the right ring to match the love that it represents that you share together.
marriage is something you rush into and when the time is right it will happen,enjoy the time you have together and except him at his word. to many woman read to much into everything a guy says. in reality men are not as complicated as you make us out to be.
he could still be in mourning over the loss of the baby and may need more time to heal..
2006-08-05 06:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by mysticaljesterz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting restless, tell him if he really loves you it is now or never, and that you can't wait forever. If he really loves you then he will, saving up for a ring is a pathetic excuse and if he doesn't want to get married ask him why not. And if it is a pathetic reason then you are better off without him.
2006-08-05 06:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by lost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may need time to get over losing the baby just as you do. I think that it is a frightening thing to lose a child. He is being smart to wait. We tend to think on the what if's in life when we lose it. He may not be prepared to be a father right now. Just give him some time to see and prepare. Parenting is not a decission to take lightly.
2006-08-05 06:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by mary c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey why would he get married when he is getting all the sex he needs. Wise up girl your being had.Stop giving him sex and see how long he stays around.I say about 7 days then he should be gone.That is if you can last that long with out sex
2006-08-05 06:52:28 · answer #9 · answered by oyster bay bob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need a ring to get married . . . that doesn't fly with me . . .any token of love can be there until some day he can give you what he wants . . however, you can't force him into marriage if he isn't truly ready . . take one day at a time is all I can suggest
2006-08-05 07:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋