Am bored housewife?

Question

What do I do about a husband who spends most nights with his friends and not with me and our six month child? Spends his money drinking and not on bills?

Answer 1

I know the that you are feeling very vulnerable right now and are probably financially dependant on this man so while walking out or kicking him out sounds ideal it may not be practical.
You need to talk to him for sure about your bills, perhaps you have a mom or a sister to back you up, maybe his mother has a hold over him? Also it is not in order his leaving you alone and going out all the time.
Why don't u suggest taking over the bills and get the money off him every week ..some men are not good with money if of course he will agree to this.
You should if you can get a babysitter one day a week and go for a coffee with a friend or do something to spoil yourself, when men start acting like single guys I think you have to get selfish yourself and concentrate on baby and you.
A treat for you once a week is a must, maybe in time get yourself more independent, if you could get part time work even and that way you can dictate more, the more independent you are the more in control you will be. Put money in an account for you every week if possible. If you cant go out you could chat online, amongst all the jerks there are nice genuine people to understand how you feel and support you.
Just remember you are the better person in this, it might take time but work on things to improve them, good luck

Answer 2

Get your own hobby or thing to do. There are all types of things you can do at home, with your kid there, and invite others over. You could start a 'mommy play date'. Find the other moms in your area that are just like you(there are a couple thousand, but you only need five or six of them). Then invite them over. Switch houses every night or so and have fun.

You can also simply get a sitter for your baby and go out too. Again, another mom is ideal, as you can trade off kids with her.

And you could always try to talk to your husband, but really, why bother. If he does not see his wife and child and bills as important now, one little talk is not going to change his mind.

Answer 3

Listen...you should make an statement of freedom...
guys think because you had a baby you are with post birth depression and that´s not ok. Try to dedicate more time for you..go to the gym make new freinds and go out as much as he does. Leave him with the baby and spend money in clothes or start to search for a part time job...
guys always believe that THEY GOT YOU if they can tell what are you doing at everytime so, dont make him feel sure about you and he´s going to feel the difference and start taking care about you...

Answer 4

Sounds very young and immature of him. But many times new mothers spend a lot of time with the baby and the man feels as if he is being put aside. Have a good heart to heart talk with him and tell him that taking care of the baby is very important, but you also want to spend time with him as a family in the evenings.
Go from there and see what kind of answer you get. That will tell you if he is really ready to be a "family man" or time to cut him loose. YOU need help with the baby and family togetherness!

Answer 5

Susie, tell him how you feel. Think about your own needs and what you want and need out of your marriage. Some men need things spelling out to them! If he states he is sorry and did not realise how you are feeling then move forward and look for a part time job, some groups to join some interaction your a mum not brain dead. If he says like it cos that's the way it's going to be. Well there are lots of lovely men out there, life is too short to be unhappy and you can only try so hard to meet someone in the middle. Good luck!

Answer 6

I hear this again and again. One it depends on how old he is. Younger guys have a hard time accepting responsibly. Then again some older ones do too. You had to grow and be responsible because your the mom.
Is this behavior new or was he always like this. Being with someone knowing the way they are, you can't expect them to change.
If it is just since you got pregnant or had the baby. He's running away from the reality he doesn't want to face.

Answer 7

You need a serious word with him. My wife and 2 daughters come before anything else and definitely before me. He's missing the best months of your child's life too. Explain to him how you feel. Try get a weekend away and spice stuff up a bit (or spend all weekend catching up on sleep probably) x

Answer 8

You will have to draw a line and say enough is enough. As long as he can get away with what he is doing he will. That is just human nature. Just tell him it is not o.k. to do what he is doing and be willing to back up your decisions. It sounds like you may have a hard time sticking up for yourself and sticking to hard decisions. Me too. But there comes a time when you must.
You deserve a good husband and a good family. Now find the strength to make that happen. If he can not be strong enough to lead your family then you will have to lead.
Take care.

Answer 9

You have a 6 month old child and he don't seem to care. When he comes home break a beer bottle on the counter, like in the movies, and stab him with it. He don't deserve you. If I wasn't married I would take my military *** to where you are and take care of you. Like a woman deserves.

People, there is a SPELL CHECK above the box you type in. Try using it so other people can understand your answers. Thank you.

Answer 10

I think you already know, but are afraid to take the necessary actions. When you're ready, you do it.

It is time to get priorities in order, money in order and have a plan. Then talk to him. If he doesn't change after this talk, it is time to walk.

You didn't create the kid by yourself. Why should you be the only one who is not having any fun? But, at least you are doing the responsible thing. You are to be commended.