what if you were to find your photos in yr estranged husband trousers?

Question

i find it weird.that after we being estranged from one another.twice i found 2 different photos of myself on his trousers pocket.twice.and the 2nd time.i confronted him about it.and he denied.had placed it in there?could he be up to no good?either spy on me.or sorcery porpuses?couse.frankly speaking.although we are still married?i made it clear,that i have nothing much to do with him no more.we have 4 kids.the youngester which is 10 year old.and no.i ain't got another man or affairs in my life,AND HE SHOULD KNOW IT.so there's should be no reasons for his stupid behaviour.

thanks sglmom.very insightful,yrs.were a very insightful comments,actually although we are stranged,we still live under the same home.but in separated rooms,i know that hes very possessive of me.and we being together.for 23 years now.for our kids sake, and he thinks that am up to no good,but i swear its all paranoia.cos am stil 40 and looking stil young and hes 51yr old,i found the first photo.inside his trousers pocket while doing the laudry,the 2nd time.my youngester child a 10 yr old boy.found it for me.and gave it to me.while looking for coins in his pocket,and i know that he meddle with sorcery.or private eyes.thats why am concerned.not about the spy.as i got nothing to hide.but sorcery.cos i find my rights and psychic violated.i told it to him and asked him to stop.this nonsense.i hate it.

Answer 1

This is a form of manipulation and control -- they take some personal object (like photos, pieces of clothing, jewelry, anything that could drive you crazy or manipulate you into feeling someting for him still) -- and is considered abuse. My own ex-spouse broke into my office and stole my photo and my children's photographs off the wall (I did file a police report -- but they did not return the photos and frames -- which were CLEARLY in his possession -- they looked right at them!) The photos were able to be duplicated, it was other things that were left to me by deceased relatives that he stole also during the divorce process that hurt me so much.

So, are you going through divorce yet? If so, your attorney needs to get this information for sure. My question is this -- if he is estranged, why do you still have his trousers in the 1st place? When I went through the divorce -- I packed all his clothing in a cardboard box (including all his junk) and just delivered it to his office -- which gave me relief (He abused me and my children). NOTHING of his -- personal or otherwise, was left in my possession. (PS -- My ex was having he affairs too at the time -- I had sole responsibility for my two disabled children from this ex was worked to support them and me).

Don't let it bother you -- that is what he wants. Let it go. He is still determined to try to remain in control, but since you've already given him the marching papers, let him march, but hold him responsible for supporting the children.

Answer 2

I'd smile, if you have 4 kids with the man, no wonder he wants to look at your pictures. He probably just misses you and that's his way of coping somewhat, you know they are too proud and stubborn to say they actually miss you and need you. But if strange stuff starts happening around your house, like snakes, dead animals on the porch or in the mailbox and strange mail, I might think he's up to a little voodoo, then I'd become worried. Not to scare you but some people can't handle breakups well.

Answer 3

I had a soon to be ex husband take a bra of mine. Nothing fancy or even sexy. I looked high and low for the thing. He finally told me he had taken it out of the laundry so he could still have a part of me
He had always been strange but not like that. Maybe he is still holding on to even a little peice of you.

Answer 4

In youre case, take no action!

Answer 5

what the hell are you doing in his trousers in the first place? ? ?

Answer 6

I think he still wants you, but is indenile.

Answer 7

esquisito

Answer 8

yes you have a strange husband!!!!!!!!