I have been with a man since December and we truly love each other, but he used to have 3-5 women at a time and start fights all the time, do drugs, and drink heavily. I have heard him tell his sister that he could not cheat on me because he loved me so very much. He has not cheated on me, but I wonder if I am setting myself to get hurt very badly. What do you think?
2006-08-05 06:01:47 · 16 answers · asked by Amy Renee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Look at it this way. If you were in his choose, would you like someone to think the same way of you. Yeah, he's got a terrible past life, but we all have to give someone a second chance. If not you, then who. Life is about making decisions, not always easy, but we have to choose one that is best for us. Go with your gut feelings. Guys do come to their senses. Just takes time. Maybe it was his time to change.
2006-08-05 06:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by alter_ego 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you be encouraged and think positively. People can and do change, but they have to change on their own. If he decides to change and be a better man, he has to want it bad enough for himself. People dont change for people, they change for self improvement. I say to you to enjoy what you have now and live from day to day. If you both sincerely love one another and remain honest with another, then things will work out. However, be strong enough to accept that fact that he might not change. That does not make him a bad person, just means he has bad judgement and sometimes it is hard to pull someone away from what they have been acustomed to for so long. I dont know what your spiritauality is but if you are christia, keep God first in your relationship. Communication is so important. I wish you the best of luck. Love is beautiful.
2006-08-05 13:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys can change with lots of help - grown men, as the one you describe are already set and if changes happen will just be worse than now. Try to start off with a decent man and then enjoy what you have, can never change anyone that does not feel he needs to change and then an adult will need professional help to change.
2006-08-05 13:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by Pattycake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends girl, Did he change for you? If so it sounds romantic but it'll never work. I used to be "the devil's right hand", but about six years ago I saw that this road wasn't taking me where I wanted to go. I still get a little crazy now, but I believe that I am a good person over all. I wasn't a good person then, so the answer is yes all people can change.
2006-08-05 13:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some bad boy type guys can become decent, but rare ! But giving him the benefit of the doubt, I bet if he really wanted to change he could and if he really loves you and you feel it and know it, then I am certain he can change his bad boy image and grow up !
As that is all the bad boys need to do it wake up and realize they are not teenagers they have gotten older and they just need to grow up. HA
2006-08-05 13:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible, sure....but don't hold your breath. The chances of a bad boy becoming good are very slim. So it's a big gamble to stay with one and wait for him to change. Chances are you will hit midlife and will still be waiting for him to change...and he will dump you for someone younger.
2006-08-05 13:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some can - and have! Others have remained the same lying, cheating creatures until their last day on earth. Good luck - hope you found yourself a good one!
2006-08-05 13:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can stay in the relationsip just be realistic. keep yourself, and him, in check. if things start to look suspicious, they probably are. but if you really love him you should stay with him. just dont let love blind you.
make sure he knows you're always open to talk, about his past or whatever. that way if he feels his past coming back, he can stop himself and you can help him.
best of luck.
2006-08-05 13:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by mervelash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you that much he can change but don't let your self get hurt if he wants you ,you must be beautiful if it doesn't work move on strongly
2006-08-05 13:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by Iesha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never trust a man who use drugs etc. when a person cant control himself against such things, he is definetely a sick person. and a sick man can do anything. trust him only when he stop taking all these things. and it would b great if he does it 4 u.
2006-08-05 13:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by crackluver007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋