I did something wrong with my best friend.I said sorry to him.But nothing is same any more.What should I do?

Question

He isn't the way he use to be with me.He ignors me.Doesn't talk properly.Does the things i hate most.It hurts me a lot.I know I was wrong.I said sorry.I am even trying to change myself.He is the only good friend I have got.I will be going outside my country to study after my Alevel exams.I won't get to see or be with him.I want to spend as much time I have talking, enjoying and having fun the way I use to have with him.I realy miss the times I use to be with him.I miss my best friend.I dont want to loose him.I am realy confused.I can't bare the way he treats me.I feel he doesn't care about me, take me as a friend or even want me any more.He thinks I iove him.I do but only as a friend.I feel a lot of things but I am not sure if I am right.I want him the way he use to be.I want a second chance.The worst part is I feel miserabel and when I do I can't concentrate in my studies.I realy wish things get back the way it use to be before all this.

I did not sleep with him.I have no such feelings for him.What I did wrong was that I am a little pushy.I always ask him not to do this and that.I always say u don't like me, care about me, take me as a friend.But that was only to make sure he does like and care about me.He knows very well how I feel about him.Everyone in my college use to be jelious of our friendship.Some think he is my boyfriend.Some teachers even.But he never use to be bothered about it.Becoze we knHe use like, love and care about me the way I use to.He was like the perfect friend for me.I clearly talked with him.We fought for some days with him.I came to decide i can't take it any more and got to end this friendship.So i told him then he said no.Explaind me things.He didn't even let me speak.He got extermely angry.He said I am untolerable but he tolerates me.He can't take it any more.That's why he behaived that way.Before I even said sorry he said it's ok and we can stay best friends.He said it but it isn't that way

Answer 1

. . . was this a spit or swallow situation? . . .

Answer 2

Hmmm, tricky situation, but one I can identify with. It sounds like your friend is confused about how you feel towards him, even though you have told him that you only love him as a friend. I think you should write him a letter, and in it explain absolutely everything: your feelings towards him, the way you can't concentrate on your studies because you're so miserable about this, the way you value his friendship above everyone else's. I find it so much easier to write things down than to say them face to face with someone, even if I know them really well. If you do this, your friend may realise how sorry you are and that your friendship is worth saving. If he doesn't, that's his decision and although it will be extremely hard for you, you should respect this decision. Good luck.

Answer 3

you do go on a bit don't you? why not just say sorry i don't want to lose you and make a hand made card with a perfume he liked on you sprayed on it,you may not have been lovers but you still can have extremley strong feelings for a person of the opposite sex, like me i had a great friend at uni who was a darling man, i dont see him now as we both dropped out of our nursing studies but i wish him well for his future,maybe you should take a deep breath and do what i have suggested if that doesn't work then at least ask if you can write to him and telephone him from time to time and who knows things over time may imrove. Good luck xx

Answer 4

Once the arrow leaves the bow, it never returns. Think before you speak to others also. Take a lesson from this instance. If he does not care for you even after saying sorry to him. Forget him. It`s not end of the world for you.

Answer 5

I think you should give him time to recover, you didn't say what you did to upset him but what ever it is, it seems serious....maybe you should let him know what he's doing to you. Try not to think about it, your studies are more important than anything else you know...think of it this way...your not going to be with ur best friend for ever because as you get older you experience life...and you wouldn't want to ruin ur studies for anyone would you? Soo try your best to stay focus in ur studies, remember friends come and go, but ur life is with you forever and you would want to live life to your likeness...good luck hun...

Answer 6

I'm going to assume you slept with him, and I'm sorry sweetheart but after that NOTHING goes back to normal, that's why you NEVER sleep with your friends. Trust me I know. If this isn't the case then obviously he's very shallow, and not worth YOUR forgiveness after treating you so poorly.

Answer 7

i think you both need to tell each other how you are feeling, sometimes this is easier in a letter. you do seem very passionate towards him which is maybe why he thinks you like in in a sexual way,

sometimes things change for a reason, and cannot be reversed, you will make new freinds i promise

but first ya need to speak to him

Answer 8

Give it time but try to keep in touch as if do not sense any thing wrong - but first try to talk it out and let him know how much you value his friendship.

Answer 9

he is probably never going to forget what u did try apologizing to him he will forgive u at some point

Answer 10

That's all you can do is say sorry.Hopefully he'll come around before you leave, if not then his loss. good luck!

Answer 11

It's up to him.He will either forgive you or never forgive you.It's as simple as that.