the people in my class all hate me or something. every time i turn around they are all talking about me or making up mean stuff. nobody will talk to me no matter if i go up to them and say 'hi, my name is kristie. whats yours?'. they just stare at me like im an idiot or something and they turn around and walk away.
it was only my first day at school yesterday and everybody is STILL treating me like a loser or they are holding a grudge against me! i dont know what i did to them to make them hate me so much but i didnt do anything.
yesterday i came home and cryed b/c i know im going to have to spend the whole year alone.
and just to let you know- i have already made friends with the corner that i named bob yesterday.
2006-08-05 05:44:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all, try to learn not to show how much they are hurting you. Best to find some hobbies or start learning something different. Such as a foreign language (or a second one, if you are doing one in class already), playing an instrument, reading a lot of books, etc.
I know from experience that it is very difficult to just become one of them, and the harder you try, the harder they make it for you. You need to remember that "they" is not like your ultimate goal. Try to be smarter, and ignore them. Moreover, knowing more than them will make them crazy jealous. This will not make them all your friends, but you will earn a lot of respect, and in the end you will see people wanting to be your friends. Then you will have to sift them carefully, as there will be a lot of scum.
But remember: You have to make THEM come to you and not vice versa. This will involve a lot of work, such as you will always have to be dressed smart, act smart and calm, learn more, do more. But this will make a better person of you, and you will not always be in that school around those petty people, and new friends will find you!
2006-08-05 07:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by Rachelgoose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once had to go to a new school in the 10th and then switched to another in 11th grade - then I graduated from the school I attended in Jr. High where my friends were! I know it sounds crazy. But, the thing that helped me the most was getting involved in extracurricular activities. I was in the jazz band and tried out for the flag team and stuff like that. I joined a couple of fun clubs and in the process met some people who liked the same things I did and so I developed a group of friends that way. I never was totally popular and I did get picked on alot. I didn't have alot of money, clothes or even good social skills at the time so it was hard. I had this one girl who was so mean to me that we almost got into a fist fight on several occasions. Young people can be terribly cruel, but you probably haven't met everybody at your school yet - you just need to meet some folks who are decent and nice. Sometimes, they can be hard to find. Just remember 10-20 years from now - things will look completely different in life. Many times, those who feel like rejects when they are young turn out to be the happiest and most successful people as adults while many of the popular people who pick on others end up committing suicide or some such terrible end result like being a drug addict. Just try to always have a smile on your face and be nice to everyone you talk to - that's what my best friend always told me. See, if I was still in high school and was at your school, we'd probably hang out - but how would you find me? You just have to get involved in some things. It can be very embarrassing and feel awful to sit by yourself at lunch time. See if your school has any lunchtime clubs that meet. If not, see what you can do to start one. Talk to your teachers they could help you in doing that.
2006-08-05 12:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will either get great grades or you will fail miserably. Since you have already failed miserably in life when it comes to socialization, you might as well do good in school. Be the Valevictorian or something. Go on MTV's Can I Be You show, and remake yourself to be one of the cool people, although that never works, it just makes the cool person cooler. So, I would suggest that you get to know the crossing guard, the narks and the library staff really well. They need friends too you know. Have a great life. By the way, watch out for that manhole because I think you are about to walk in it?
2006-08-05 12:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I need a little history - how old are you? are you new at this school? are there people who used to be your friends and seem to have abandoned you?
I'm guessing your in middle school - possibly high school?
Well, in middle school everyone gets made fun of at least once. And everyone gets b*tchy. You seem like a very gentle and kind person. KEEP BEING KIND. Sometimes its tempting to be snobby and mean and have "authority" over people. You know? For some reason that attracts people. People want to be like that. But don't think you should want that - you SHOULDN'T. KEEP BEING A KIND PERSON. There are a**holes everywhere - and you just have to deal with them.
Give more details. For now - I'm sorry, girls suck, especially mean ones, good luck.
2006-08-05 12:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by fiddle faddle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give you is that when they are cracking up and laughing at you, don't show them that it bothers you. Everyone was nervous on the first day of school, and the way the rest of the students broke the ice with each other was to laugh at you. It sucks, but you'll be fine. You'll have friends in no time, good luck.
Andy
2006-08-05 12:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by Andy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should not try so hard. Look around at other people and watch how they act. Then pick the people you want to be friends with. Approach them about a subject you know they are interested in, that is a good ice breaker. You cannot be friends with everyone, that is just a fact of life, and so you need to pick your friends instead of trying to be friends with everyone.
2006-08-05 12:51:00 · answer #6 · answered by leadfoot126 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens with mostly everyone. The best advice from me is be SMART. Show attitude, but be nice. Give them time, they will reach u. Show them u r equal to them. But, dont complain teachers. That makes the matter worse. And yes, get out of the corner. Give good responses in class & ask smart questions.
ALL THE BEST !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-05 13:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep being friendly im sure youll find someone
yeah thats the best i can give?
join some clubs or teams then you can really get to know some people
these people sound really rude so theyre not going to be good friends anyways
people hate change
theyll get over it
hope that helps xox
2006-08-05 13:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by Amander S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people can be very mean and spiteful for no good reason. It's just what pothetic people do to feel good about themselves. Don't worry about them! you'll find somebody to hang with. Not everybody is like that . Hope this was helpful 2u.
good luck!
2006-08-05 12:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by k dawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ma'am,I know how it feels to be alone especially in a new plae...it's okay...just give them time to warm up to you, and then soon you'll be Ms. Popular.. People don't anything about you yet, so give them time to learn. Nobody will talk mean about you yet, because they know nothing about you. Have faith and all will be well.Keep up the positive attitude and the world will be yours.
2006-08-05 12:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by cradle2resurrection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋