me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over 3 months, but we both completely fell in love with each other. Everything has been good and fine until a few days ago. Im gonna be a soph. this year and he'll be a senior. all of the sudden the other day he told me that he needs a few weeks alone to figure things out. he needs to make sure this is what he really wants because he only has a year left and he wants to make sure that he wants to do this with me when he goes away to college to, because he's probably going far away. he broke up with me so he could have this time to think. i really dont know what to think, and im completely broken up because i love him so much. he said that he still loves me and this hurts him too, but he'd rather do it now then a year down the road when things are even farther along. i dont know if he's hiding something, or what i should do. I really just want to be back togehter with him idk what i would od without him if this was permanent
2006-08-05 05:41:48 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe he really does just want to take a break to find out how he is really feeling. Don't assume he has or is cheating on you. Give him some time and see what happens. You guys are still in high school and when you graduate that opens up a whole new world. I believe if two people are meant to be together it will happen. He obviously is planning on going to college and maybe he is trying to spare you alot of hurt later on. At least he does seem to care about you and your feelings. If it becomes a permanent break up believe me I know how much it will hurt, but you will feel better as time goes on. I have learned that sometimes people are in our lives to teach us something and to help us grow, but not as a permanent part of our lives. Sometimes it's only for a season they are with us. You will be stronger after this because each time we are hurt, we make it through and look back and see the strength we have gained from it. Everything will be fine....no matter the outcome. Good luck sweetie and hang in there.
2006-08-05 05:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by softlyinspired 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, even though this is hard on you, I believe this guy is taking a really mature approach to the matter. Leaving high school is going to be a big step in his life and being a college student an even bigger one. He is considering your feelings as well as his and the only thing I can see that is causing problems is the fact that he is still leading you on with the "I still love you" thing. At this point the best thing that you two need to do is have a clean break and maybe approach the idea of a relationship whenever he has made definitive plans for college.
The good news is that you're still young and even though this hurts, it'll pass fairly quickly and you'll find someone new. Try to find someone closer to your age so that you don't run into something like this again. Just remember that high school as well as college is the time to experiment and see what you want or need from a relationship instead of settling down with just one guy.
2006-08-05 05:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by inspired_semantics 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is doing what might be best for both of you. You still have soph, jun, senior years left and he's gonna graduate this year. That means that you'll barely be getting into college when he's about to graduate. With him going off to college, it also means that you won't see eachother often and/or that you will have to travel far to see eachother. For a relationship thats just 3mo old thats a lot of stress to foresee in the future.
He may be more interested in dating someone at college where he can have a real relationship and not have to travel or rely on the internet/phone calls to talk to the person. Respect his time away and think about the future a little bit - you might find that being apart, at least for right now, might be the best thing for both of you.
2006-08-05 05:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is being realistic. However I do not know what type of guy he really is. Besides being realistic, he may want to hold up his ego and participate in all the senior fun with his classmates if you get what I mean, and not have you around. Again I don't know him, but yes there very well could be another girl involved-definitely. If he is not calling you to check and see how you are doing--and just left you hanging by yourself---then this is not love. It looks to me like if he really liked you or likes you that he would not have broken up like that b/c you all could have stayed together and still worked on that stuff by talking about things. It just happened to suddenly for me to think otherwise. You need to atleast act like you have moved on, by not staring at him or hanging around places he does. See if the mystery or whatever brings him back. Do that for fun. But don't waste your time wondering if he is really coming back or a good guy to date right now. Just try to enjoy those good memories and make new ones now. You both are still young. I know you say that you would not know what to do w/o him if this was permanent. Well, I felt that way about 10 times at least. Believe me if this does not work out your way, you will look back within a year and see that you were clearly mistaken. You will laugh and chalk it up to a learning experience. It is not funny but you will think that you were overreacting to someone who just wasn't worth your effort or woth worrying about.
2006-08-05 05:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody needs space from time to time. Everybody needs to respect others need for space also. Let him go. If he comes back, good. If he doesn't, that won't be the worse thing in the world either. You're at a great age right now and you' you're gonna see lots more opportunities and make more friends. This is a good opportunity to "shop." Just be careful...and don't be too serious.
2006-08-05 05:54:33 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should respect him and stay away from thinking that he was hiding something but at the same time remember that if he really, really loves you he would take this last year seriously. and (just because) hes a senior he should have (insted of breaking up with you) told you what was going on so that you could help him get over it and he should have cherished that last year with you....(is this making sense?)
2006-08-05 05:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad fact is he wants to break up so he can be free to pursue other ladies. Some people's feelings change quickly at that age, you have to be strong enough to let him go and get on with life. Trust me, there is someone far better than him out there for you, but you won't see them if you're busy looking back at your old relationship.
2006-08-05 05:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awhh, this sounds like my best friends story. she feel completly in love with a guy from Florida, and one day out of the blue, he decided to break up with her. She was heart broken for weeks, and she wouldnt talk to anyone.
It will take a little while to get over. Lean on your friends for support, it helps alot, rather than bottling up all your feelings.
If he feels that it will no longer work, you need to respect that. Maybe, in the furture, you guys will work out. THeres always hope.
2006-08-05 05:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I wish I had of done the same thign with my boyfriend. Dont let me scare the hell out of you but he probley wants to marry you but it's nto feeling completely right in his heart. he wants it to go away... I suggest running like hell... I did the same thing sweetehart and ended up being engaged when I was 15 years old.. yes maybe im a little retarded but dont get to caught up in the drama of it. Go out and have some fun!
2006-08-05 05:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by morningwillowkisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to be the guy that can't go anywhere with the guys because he has a girlfriend, you'll understand when you are a senior. Good luck and try to enjoy the rest of your summer.
Andy
2006-08-05 05:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by Andy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋