ok say u had a 13 yr old sister and u were legally in charge of her and she ended up getting knocked up. she says she wants 2 keep it but u say no cuz shes 13! and if u were Catholic, ur religion is against abortion. would u let ur 13 yr old sister have the baby or would u get an abortion???
2006-08-05 05:41:06 · 18 answers · asked by Angel 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
just so ya no, im not in this situation! its just sumthing i was thinking about! : )! HEHE!
2006-08-05 06:13:54 · update #1
Thats a very tricky situation. In someways an abortion could be the best decision because she is only 13 and I don't know any 13 year olds who are ready to have a child. You have many options though.
-Adoption
-Abortion
-Keeping the baby
In the end it is her decision but I say you should keep your mind open to any ideas such as adoption. If I were your sister I'd want an abortion but since its against your religion I just don't know. I think adoption is the best solution, and possibly making it so that she could see her child every so often so she could see her but still live a normal life as a 13 year old girl.
2006-08-05 05:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by just_ask_then_listen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are her legal guardian, I would think you're at least a little in charge of her decision. It all depends on what both of your personal beliefs are. She wants to keep it. I don't think it's wrong to want one's child. But you do have a good point. She's only thirteen! I'm assuming you're at least 18, so, here's a suggestion: Let her carry it to term. Maybe you can adopt it. She would get to see her child every day, but still be able to be a child and finish her education. If your budget doesn't allow room for a new baby, or you don't think you're ready, then that's ok. If abortion is against your religion, then have her give birth, but put it up for adoption. That way, her baby can find a loving home that can accomodate a baby. Remember, if you're her legal guardian, then it's your decision. You were put in charge of her for a reason: you are capable of taking care of her!
I wish you, your sister, and the baby the best!
2006-08-05 13:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an abortion and get her on the pill after the abortion, since she has already demonstrated the capcity to go out and have sex irreseponsibly she lost her say in the matter as far as I am concerned she can't pay for it she can't keep it and it would interfer with her education so she can't keep it I would go with adoption cause at 13 her body won't take the strain of a pregnacy well and once again she aint payin for the hospital bills so she can't keep it I am against abortion but I am against people having children they can't take care of more and you already know she won't be a good mother cause of her age so the conversation you have with her is moot, if she attempts to press the issue tell her you will have the fella arrested for stautatory rape now does she want to deal with that cause if she keep the baby it is all the evidence the DA will need to convict so she is asking for more trouble than she can afford right now and she has no choice but to abide by your wishes hers are moot.
2006-08-05 12:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by Monte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a good question im in the same religion and things could go bad. For one thing abortion is not the answer if she didnt want a baby she shouldnt be having sex. I say adoption. And if it happens again i say put her on birth control that is also against the catholic religion but it works so thats an option.
2006-08-05 14:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by Ari C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have deliberately posed a difficult situation and want to justify abortion in this case.
I am with you, the point is that, one mistake has been made, now you can either correct it or let it get out of hand.
Adoption is a valid point, but what if you are not in a situation to support the child. Orphan house is another option... for pro life choice.
However, the most important point to discuss is why are there so many unwanted pregnancies?
Why don't the religious minded people not act on this very important issue in the first place .... There is sex everywhere you see in media, sexual indulgence is considered healthy, and society is simply too busy to mind the teenagers who need the utmost care in leadership and direction...
May peace be with all!!
2006-08-05 12:55:44 · answer #5 · answered by vinod s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you let her have the baby, but I don't think you should keep it. Maybe you can put it up for adoption. Or give it to a friend who wants a child. Or maybe you CAN keep it. But, YOU take care of it. It always depends on how you feel. You can't force her to do anything, though. It IS her baby.
2006-08-05 12:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make her give the baby up for adoption. It is the only good answer in this situation. Your sis can continue with her life/school etc. and the baby will have parents capable of raising and loving it.
2006-08-05 23:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by Betsy Jayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets just say if she keeps it she needs child development classes and it is hard to go to college if she plans to with a child it can be done but she is young too young to have a child emotionally physically and mentally in my health class in college the book says sometimes when a girl has sex too young besides pregnancy its not good health wise. How did she end up with someone so she can sleep with them was she talk to about the birds and bees did she ignore your advice.
2006-08-05 13:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by blackorkid1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see needs to have this baby
otherwise she will be hurt for life knowing what she did
and if an abortion goes wrong your sister might not be able to have kids
once the baby is born if you know you can't handle it put it up for adoptation.
the baby is harmless in this just remember that
i am deffentilely not saying what your did was right... it wasn't but believe me the baby shouldn't have to suffer from her mistakes!!
best of luck and i hope you do he right thing
2006-08-05 12:54:28 · answer #9 · answered by betterC0C0butter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your catholic so your against abortion, hav the baby even if you have to adoption you saved a life
2006-08-05 13:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by mystery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋