Is it because I spend most of my free time playing video games? Has that made me a boring person? Or do I just need more friends to call? I know it's not a good question, but I need to have some idea as to what the problem is. Also, I can't keep a conversation going, so... any tips on how to, you know, keep a conversation going?
2006-08-05 05:37:39 · 6 answers · asked by Born Loser (not the comic) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Even if all you did with your free time was learning French, playing the guitar or playing videogames, the results would be the same: one-topic friends are boring, whether they are extrovert or introvert.
I am a social introvert (a very private person), but I've made friends by getting interested in what they have to say, asking questions. Slowly but surely, one develops a sincere interest in things that are outside of oneself.
I also have friends I call with some frequency but they don't return my calls at the same rate. What do I do? I stopped thinking about it, because friendship is not about how many phone calls you make to your friends and vice versa, and, besides, who's counting? It would be like measuring friends by the amount of favors they do to you, and vice versa.
Just relax a little, show yourself the good friend you're certain to be within. Goodness and genuine interest attract the same in others. "Opposites attract" is a lie.
Best of luck!
2006-08-05 06:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be you playing video games most of the time when you could be with them. You will have to go on calling them for the time being, as they are very unlikely to suddenly develop a keen interest in your progress with video games.
My advice, try to see your friends as often as possible, and find out what they do. If, for instance, you go together to do some stuff you have no idea about, don't be afraid to ask. Ask your friends to teach you something they are doing, to show you how they do things. Ask what you can do to help when it comes to parties or doing something as a group. When you see that someone is not feeling at their best, ask them if they would like to talk about it, or whether there's anything you can do. Organise something yourself and invite them all. Try to help them, and they will help you.
I hope this helps.
2006-08-05 14:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by Rachelgoose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, if all you can talk about is video games you are boring. Find something else to get into. Maybe learn to play guitar.
When having a conversation let them talk and then ask questions. If they tell you about something tell them about something similar that you did or know about. At least you are trying. Practice makes perfect.
2006-08-05 12:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by Dennis Fargo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R ur choices & tastes the same? Do u have to walk behind them as servants?
If yes, forget them. They r not ur friends.
If no, maybe they feel uncomfortable with u. Check urself Do u stink? Do u wear old fashioned clothes when ur friends r on the latest? Try to upgrade ur level of humour, looks, chat topics, personality.
Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-05 12:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what common interests you have. That might help.
2006-08-05 12:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have got the same problem when you get an answer email it to me forwheeler_gal@yahoo.com
2006-08-05 12:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by forwheeler_gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋