im young,intelligent and pretty,im educated,strong-minded,white and muslim. i fall in love to a 17 years older blak man who is not rich, and hav a 7 years old daughter from a x-girlfriend.he is african american and i never hav been in the USA. he is much taller then me, and dont know my native language,so i hav to speak english wit him,but my english isnt fluent. he is a good man,and want to marry me. he comes from Harlem and had a bad bakground,but i love him.we text,email,chat wit eachother everyday. am i an idiot??
i hv no child,im 22. i fall in love to his heart, i like his ideas, and his voice turns me on. he isa big blak man,and i like that. he is positive to me..YES,we met online,and thats y we both dont trust eachother 100%. we both r not weak-minded ppl, but love happen. Everything at him attracted me. i want only him. we know each other since Dec-2005. he sent me a few pics of his child. he send me pics of his house. i dont think he lies. he was honest and told me his
2006-08-05 05:26:47 · 24 answers · asked by she-ra 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
are you sure your sexy???
2006-08-05 05:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I fell in love with an older man once and it didn't turn out to good. He said he loved me and in the beginning he treated me like a queen. Then after we got married it changed! He showed his true colors. I was young and so I thought that was normal. When the abuse started I realized it wasn't. I was treated as a trophy wife. And if you think that is a good thing, think again! He started being very possessive, and had to know where I was and who I was with all the time. And he had to approve my friends. And if I didn't do what he wanted then I knew it wasn't going to be fun. So I guess what I'm saying is really make sure with your head not your heart that this is what you really want. And talk with your friends, most of your friends will not want you to get hurt and they will be honest with you if you ask them. If I had done that, I would not have went through what I did.
2006-08-05 05:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We as people should know that life is too short, and we don't know what tommorrow will bring. If you love him, then go for it. Stop throwing the race card up, or using the fact that he is not rich, or have a child. We never know where we will wind up. Don't put all of your eggs in one basket number one. I don't care if he's black, white, or green. You have to really get to know this man as a individual. You two have a long distance relationship, and he's a man, and men have needs so.. You two have to make an effort to see each other face to face, and establish constant contact, because falling in love with him doesn't make you an idiot, but you have to be around a man to see a man.
2006-08-05 06:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by Cocoa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a hanif-muslim and I live in NY.But 50 miles north of the city.I don't know how long you have been in NY, but you will learn about NY real quick.What you think here is not what really is.Trust is a morality highly manipulated.You can never know here.I don't know where you are from, but NY is a place you have to watch yourself.Through all aspects of life.Most call it the City of GODS.So you can never tell.Not to sound like a co*k blocker or anything like that.But you are muslim and I am telling you how it is.He may be true.He may be not.You just never can truly tell.Unlesss allah says different.As salamun alaikum.
2006-08-05 05:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by Mitchell B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not weird that you have fallen in love with a 39 year old black man. However, you have a lot of hurdles to jump on this one. Seventeen years difference is a lot. Not impossible, but a lot.
Also,you need to meet him and spend time with him before you move to the USA to be with him. And you have never been to the USA? That is a very big step. You need to visit this country before you decide to move here.
The first thing that should happen is this man needs to travel to your country and meet you, your friends and your family. You have to meet face to face.
What does your family say about this relationship? Are they going to approve?
If this visit goes well. You need to travel to the US and do not travel alone. Preferably, with a few friends or your parents. Stay at a hotel in New York. Do not stay with your sweetie. Give yourself time to experience being in a foreign country and to see this man's life, in person. You need to meet his daughter, who is obviously a big part of his life.
If this second visit goes well, you need to decide how serious you are about this relationship. Serious enough to get married and move to the States?
Or, is this man considering moving to your Country? Would that even be possible?
There is a lot to consider here. But, if it was meant to be, its not impossible. And, I think its quite romantic.
2006-08-05 05:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by Just a Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really happy for you, I am involved in a relationship with a man that is 10yrs older than me with 3 kids he is 30 i am 20. I love him, he loves me we have been together for only a year, but i do not regret anything. Most of the people who answered your question are stupid, why cant people be happy for others, but whatever! honestly if you are happy then that is all that matter its your life so live it honey!!!!
Life Sucks and Then You Die, have fun!!!!!
2006-08-05 06:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by Child Of God 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're too young from such a commitment. he has a daughter, honey, you'll be her mother... can you do that? If only you had met him, i mean in flash and bones. people may say so many things (lies) on-line. and I've heard that Harlem isn't the best place in the world! especially for a young white woman!
2006-08-05 05:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by ♫Pavic♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...I don't think anyone can give you a definitive answer to this...but in a way, you already know what you will do...because I think you have to follow your heart to know. Stranger things have happened. I might come back and find out what happens...as I am interested. Good Luck to you.
2006-08-05 05:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by riverhawthorne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it truly is love then it will happen for you. just be careful. he sounds like the type of man that doesn't mind letting a woman take care of him. and by that i mean keeping him so he doesn't have to work or do anything but spend her hard earned income. and keep in mind that his heart my be different in person. it's easy to pretend you are something other that yourself when you don't have to see the other person or when the other person doesn't see them in real life. see what i mean?
2006-08-05 05:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by luvbuggies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful, of course, but this wouldn't be the first time a person fell in love with someone they met online. My friend Andy met his wife online too, and they're still together...and VERY happy.
Go with what your heart tells you, but BE CAREFUL. You never know.
2006-08-05 05:33:10 · answer #10 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Black is spelled with a 'c'. And this is way more information than I need, plus this is not a question. I don't want to read the 'love story' of anyone's life.
2006-08-05 05:31:20 · answer #11 · answered by theophilus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋