Is it true that porn has been proven to impair men's relationships with women? and why?
Ok, so if the man is using porn and it seems he prefers it to his partner, not totally prefers it but it seems that way because he will not share it and tries to hide it, then what is the answer?
She has told him she wants to share with him but he still hides it and pretends he doesn't do it.
2006-08-05 04:40:35 · 16 answers · asked by Consulate 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Set it up so that he catches her masturbating to porn, reverse the situation. Maybe if he sees that she is into it too, then he would most likely join in!!!
2006-08-05 04:45:39 · answer #1 · answered by trace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is a problem when one person enjoys it on a regular basis and then tries to hide it from the other person in a relationship. I will use you and he as an example here, no offense is intended.
If your guy is into the porn sites, he is manifesting in his mind different acts as well as different themes that he would at some point like to act out. Although some women may think this is harmless, they haven't really thought about the overall consequences. Some women are beaten and tortured others are gang raped and even killed. Then you also have the emotionakl baggage that comes with these types of things. Mental degradation will not easily leave a person, nor will STD's.
Shareing the sites and fantasies with your guy could be harmful to your health at some point. Also, it tells your guy that he doesn't really have to be interested in you the person, as long as he is interested in you the sexual partner who doesn't have self respect or self esteem. You tell him that you are a basic sl*t and that you have no feelings. That complicates the problems and his world becomes even cloudier.
There are counselors out there that are set up to help people get out of the porn addictions, the best thing you can do for your guy is to direct him to one of them. If he loves you and the realtionship, he will go and get the help. He is the only onewho can make that decision though.
2006-08-05 12:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People, men and women, have fantacies. Many are embarassed by they, and keep them secret. No big deal, unless they become obsessive. Heck, ANYTHING can become a marital problem. Don't get too conserned about porn. Now, I'm NOT talking about chatrooms, or adult dating type sites, just x rated pics and movies. Being married doesn't mean the couple shares EVERYTHING. Heck, we all need fantacies, and (some) separate intrests. Try to determine just what seems to intrest him- and yup, he aint gonna tell you. Women are smart, and few guys cover up all that well. (We tend to be stupid that way.) Now, I don't suggest acting out ANY fantacy, but some could be fun. If you find he's looking at blondes, built like Elsie the cow, they buy a wig, huge falsies, and make his evening wild. Pretend to be his secratary, his 3rd grade teacher. or a visitor from Mars. Heck, while silly to you, and perhaps every other human BUT your husband, if they turn him on- accept that he liked staring at Miss Peabody back in 3rd grade. Honestly, you have fantacies too. Eventually, the two of you might enjoy sharing, or even acting some out. My wife once left me a note, telling me she'd meet me at a certain bar. I got to be single, and got lucky with a strange hot woman, who by coincidence looked exactly like my wife, but acted waaaaay more slutty than my wife ever would. I still smile to myself remembering that night. Hurt nothing, and was a heck of a gift for me. As long as nobody gets hurt, and it's just the two of you- have fun. Grease up the parallel bars, mount the handlebars on the headboard, and ride. A wise man once said, "Sex is only dirty, if you do it right." There's nothing wrong with fun, just be careful to separate reality from fantacy.
2006-08-05 12:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he feels ashamed of his attraction to porn so he tries to deny it/hide it. Maybe he has a sexual addiction and knows that it's a problem. Maybe he wants it to be his little secret and feels resentful that he was "busted". Who knows, but it does seem strange that he wouldn't want to share this with his partner -- I think most men would.
2006-08-05 11:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by partlycloudy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are different in the way they think and feel he is hiding it because it is something private to him.
some men take up sports to relieve tension some men do porn. leave him to it you never know-- he may come up with some good ideas to show you.
Look at it this way at least he isn't 'doing it' with other females!!
Which would you rather have him do porn in pictures or porn in real time/with real women?
Think about that......
2006-08-05 12:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by BlackWidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, porn is a way for men to imagine, and visualize, girls dont need that. Infact porn will make a guy to be more affectionate to his girl.
Girls flirt with other guys to get attention which they will use that energy towards their man.
Think about it, whats more destructive, porn or flirting?
You decide
2006-08-05 11:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by TerminaToR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is ashamed....as yes, it can affect the relationship.....the wife/gf won't usually do all that is done on those movies.....and to be so willing to do it...well, a woman has no chance.....then again, if you were paid as well as the porn stars....you might do a whole lot more, but the men just don't get it....
2006-08-05 12:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are lazy and dont want to feel pressured to satify you so they watch porn ,jerk off, & fall a sleep. It's bullshit but true.They hide if cause their embarrassed & dont want explain that their lazy. Just get some toys, sexy nighty,& do the unexpected. Do a strip tease 4 him, mastubate in front of him, or give him some really GOOOD head.Any man loves that. He's just probably a little bored & that makes them lazy, nothing personal but it happens...
2006-08-05 12:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by sexy momma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man uses porn and prefers it to real sex with his partner... there is a problem. He is embarrassed about it or he would share it with his partner. sex gets boring and hum * drum and needs some polishing up, or spicing up. perhaps that is the problem...
2006-08-05 11:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that the individual feels inadequate about his masculinity. Possibly feels he can not compete with a porn star. It is difficult to pin-
point a certain cause.
2006-08-05 11:52:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋