is it just me and every man I know but are women very selfish. whats the deal with you never help when we do?

Question

thanks for all the answers . I didnt mean to be sexist . its just that the more I do for my wife the less respect I seem to get and the more she seems to be needy its allright everybody gets needy now and then but days to weeks to months to no end in sight .A person can run out of steam after a while maybe its not selfishness exactly but its still demanding with two kids too.. enough said I respect women totally as fine minded citizens and equal in almost all ways they have a few things we are useless at and we the same. they are beautiful sexy intelligient wonderful loving etc.etc.etc. and all individuals are different. but I still feel that mate sex Im only a woman thing works wonders for the fdairer sex when it suits them . maybe that will be my next question.yeah

thanks for all the answers . I didnt mean to be sexist . its just that the more I do for my wife the less respect I seem to get and the more she seems to be needy its allright everybody gets needy now and then but days to weeks to months to no end in sight .A person can run out of steam after a while maybe its not selfishness exactly but its still demanding with two kids too.. enough said I respect women totally as fine minded citizens and equal in almost all ways they have a few things we are useless at and we the same. they are beautiful sexy intelligient wonderful loving etc.etc.etc. and all individuals are different. but I still feel that mate sex Im only a woman thing works wonders for the fdairer sex when it suits them . maybe that will be my next question.yeah

Answer 1

OK....here is the scoop. Men never offer to help another man with anything...because if they do then they are implying that the man is not capable of fixing a problem by himself. If a man wants help....he will ask.

Women do NOT like to ask for help. They feel that you can see them struggling and if you do NOT offer to help it is only because you are a lazy SOB and just enjoy watching them struggle. If they actually have to ASK you to help...you just lost points. It does not count as helping if they had to ask. So I am willing to bet you are helping....when asked....and you are not getting any points for it in fact you are going further and further into negative numbers.

Just to set your own mind at rest...make a list of EVERYTHING that has to be done to run your home. Including paying bills, taking care of children, shopping, cooking, cleaning, yard work everything ...name each and every item individually like clean toilet, clean sink, clean bathtub. Then mark off all the items that you do every time....she never does them. I am willing to bet that your wife's list is at least 3 or 4 times longer than yours.

If you want to get a HUGE amount of bonus points, when you are done with the list....take it to your wife and ask her what are the 5 things on the list that she is already doing that she hates the worst and offer to start doing them always.

Answer 2

selfish? uh who are the ones who always try and force oral sex on their spouces...YOU...who are the ones who would rather watch the game on TV than spend time with the kids outside?...YOU....who are the ones who constantly check out younger ladies while in the store or out shopping with the mrs....YOU...you see, women are not selfish, we buy what we need and boys like you, we hit it and quit it, is that why we "use " you. you aren't marriage, or even b/f material because the only thing you will do is ***** and complain about where the money is going and how much we are spending on whatever. I'm not sure what women you are talking about, but i have sacrificed a lot for my b/f, and he has done the same for me...obviously you have been searching for a partner in all the wrong places because nobody seems to know that a relationship is 50%-50% and if you love that person enough, you will not take that as being selfish, just compromising. you obviously do not know the tedious work that women face every day. so basically you are saying your mother never raised you and never
*cleaned the house
*went to work
*washed the dishes
*make your food.....EVERY DAY
*drive you to and from to school
*sewed your clothes when you made a hole on the knee
and you are telling me women are selfish...look back on everything women have brought into your life....if it wasn't for us, you would still be a virgin

Answer 3

Could be the type of person you are attracting. Communication is a two way street, do you tell your potential others your feelings (like, gee I feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick)? Women are generally more giving than men. It is the way we are made.
Nobody can make a generalized statement/question like you have above and expect people to believe it. Different cultures create different sorts of people. I would look inside yourself and every man you know, for why you all feel this way. Perhaps you have been hurt in the past?
It is time to dust yourself off and move on! There are plenty of nice women out here! :)

Answer 4

Selfishness is a person to person thing! some women are and some men are!

As for the idiot who answered with the comment about pea sized brains, can you hold down a good job, study for a degree and raise a family all at the same time? Didnt think so..

Answer 5

Since you begin with a negative attitude, it's difficult to find someone who isn't also negative. Of course there are selfish women, just as there are selfish men (yes...hard to believe, but true!) There are also women who care very much. I think you should focus on different women. Obviously, the ones you're attracting aren't the ones you want. Also, remember "like attracts like." You might want to think about how you respond, too.

Answer 6

Woman are a bit selfish but it is usually because we are so independent and always are trying to fix ourselves that we forget about others feelings. We usually don't do it intentionally we are just busy in our minds. You need to elaborate a bit more to get a better answer. Be a little more specific on the situation.

Answer 7

WOMEN ARE NOT SELFISH IT'S JUST THAT IF YOU LIVE EAT SLEEP IN THE SAME HOUSEHOLD MEN SHOULD SHARE THE HOUSE LOAD, IT SHOULDN'T BE THAT THE WOMAN HAS TO ALWAYS PICK UP THE MESSES YOU LEAVE BEHIND. MEN SHOULD NOT BE WITH A WOMAN JUST BECAUSE HE WANTS A MAID SO HE CAN SIT BACK AND RELAX AND I'LL DO IT LATER WHEN I'M READY AND NEVER GETS DONE. I DON'T THINK WOMEN ARE SELFISH, IF YOU COME TO THINK OF IT MOST MEN ARE SELFISH.

Answer 8

Brendan, the deal is we give you blow jobs if you are good boys which believe me is a much worse debt than any little bit of help that you can give to your mate up the ladder. It's not that women are selfish, we just have better priorities

Answer 9

I've seen very little men that want to "help out". But I will admit that I can be selfish in that I want to be on the receiving end of emotional bliss and yet I'm not great at giving it. I'm working on it!

Answer 10

Women and men are both selfish. Humans are selfish. Men want things. Women want things.

Men like to call women selfish and women like to call men selfish. Bottom line, both sexes are extremely selfish. You just haven't dated alot of men. But if you do, you'll find that men are just as selfish, if not more, than women.