Married for 8 years, together for 14, I found a box condoms in my husbands dresser...what should I do?

Question

We don't use condoms ...what does this mean? what do I say to him?

Answer 1

Use 'em !!!!!

Answer 2

Question him about it. You all were married for 8 years there is no posing reason to be using condoms. Your man is cheating. You been together for 14 years so he needs to come up with some answers and fast. If you don't wanna get pregnant there are methods of birth control that do work. So either he doesn't want kids or he's cheating. And also don't believe a word he says. Because they lie and he will lie to you in a heartbeat. Oh and if he accuses you of anything then that's your silgn. Go out and get you another man, because the one you have is a DOG.

Answer 3

This happened to a friend of mine. She asked her husband, he squirmed, and said ahhhhh what are you doing nosing through my drawer?

You should have noticed small things going wrong in your marriage already, before you had to see the condoms or even walking in on him with someone else in the bedroom.

Don't say anything yet. You need more evidence. Switch cell phones with him for the day "by mistake", and see what's going on.

Start checking up on him. Don't give him the chance to cover up anything. This condom thing is just the tip of the iceberg.

Men do not pay attention to details. So if you are observant you should be able to get enough information to successfully do what you have to do.

Answer 4

Why should you say anything? What do you have laying around in your dresser drawers? I have some condoms in my dresser drawer that a friend gave me about 15 years ago; along with extra clips for my pistol and all sorts of junk. In the military we used condoms over rifle barrels to keep them from getting mud and crud in them. Maybe somebody gave them to your husband? Why don't you just ask him and have a laugh.

Answer 5

it means that he is either thinking about or already having sex with someone else. I think that you should be upfront. "honey, I came across something that I am curious about can we talk about why you have condoms in your drawer when we dont use them? " try to use leading questions like " do you think that we should start using them for some reason" if you are taking birth control you can say "do you want to be extra careful?" Don't accuse him of cheating let him explain without being on the defense. dont even lean towards cheating. give him a rope and let him hang himself and he will see how much of a fool he is being. if he admits that he is cheating or denies it or turns it around on you should definately suggest seeking some counseling. you should probably do that anyway. counseling is a good think whether you have a good or bad relationship !

Answer 6

I suggest that you merely place the condoms on top of his dresser. Say nothing. When he finds them there, his reaction should tell you if there is a problem.(Probable) You would be brain dead if the obvious possibility didn't occur to you. Before you do ANYTHING. Think. Assuming the obvious possibility IS true, does it matter what he says? Unless of course, he's a black powder hunter, and uses condoms to seal the end of his muzzleloader.(Not likely) Good luck.

Answer 7

We all jump to conclusions, and this is no exception. The simple thing to do seeming that you have been in a relationship for 14 years is to just ask him. "Hey, did you have a particular reason for buying the condoms I found in the drawer? Is this something I should be worried about?" If he is straight forward with his answer, then you got nothing to worry about. If he becomes wishy-washy with his answers, then you need to probe with more questions to uncover the truth. If you don't ask him, its just gonna eat you up inside, and make you wonder, and use your wild imagination.

Answer 8

Well I just habe to say start watching for more signs, it's obvious if you never used them, all of a sudden find em, then something definately is wrog inthe relationship. Dont say anything just watch for more, then decide from all the evidence of what's been going on, then make a final decision.
But the signs are there, condoms mean one thing, they are not used to make balloons.

Answer 9

Take the condoms out and leave them on his pillow and see what sort of reaction you get from him before you accuse him of anything. The more you "don't" say, the more information you'll get from him..and you know what he's doing, honey. Obviously, you're husband has another thing on the side.

Answer 10

Well the best thing is just ASK HIM... Of course there is the chance hes going to lie... Think if he was cheating he would be smart enough not to put then in his dresser though. Can't come up with any other reasons for them though sorry.

Answer 11

It means you need to get a divorce. He is cheating on you. Open your eyes you know your not dumb. Your evidence is already telling you what this means it means a man that obviously does not love you enough to stay faithful even after such a long relationship. you can confront him but i doubt that he will admit and if he does you should not forgive, for once a cheater, i have found, always a cheater.