He's always calling names like lazy bit@! and things like this what should I do? I'm not lazy just bipolar.
2006-08-05 04:25:36 · 19 answers · asked by tushpush1966 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes Itake my med's for this condition.
2006-08-05 05:25:55 · update #1
i dont care if you are lazy, not lazy, bipolar, fat, thin, employed, black, white, young or old.... i dont even care if you are male or female..... NOBODY has the right to talk to someone that way unless that right has been given to him. Something has made him think its okay to talk to you in such a belittling degrading way. verbal abuse from spouses is more common than we know and just as hurtful as other forms of abuse. if its NOT ok to be spoken to in that way then tell him. if he continues there are a number of options (believe me i know). the options range from discontinuing any conversation if spoken to in that manner, to leaving. Once you establish what your own self worth is you will only then be able to make a genuine decision on how to handle his behaviour. Love yourself and that will make you strong enough to react in the way you choose without cowering or at least allowing it. As a person you are NOT at a lower level than anyone. I know I didnt tell you how to stop the verbal abuse but I do know from personal experience that it became almost intimidating to him when he saw the strong person inside me that loved myself and didnt react except to say "i dont have time or energy to listen to your juvenile way of handling things". Sometimes I would snicker too when I really wanted to pizz him off! He is NOT better than you..... is he?
2006-08-05 04:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by wildest_rose1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage requires 2 people working at it to keep it healthy, and your husband is not contributing. Tell him that you are tired of this and that if it continues you want both of you to go to counseling. If he won't go, go yourself because it can still be helpful.
If you are seriously bipolar, then are you on meds? That can make a difference, too. He needs to be sensitive to your illness (condition, disorder, not sure how to label it).
You don't deserve to be abused, verbally or otherwise. Make sure that the verbal doesn't escalate into physical. If it ever does, get out!!
2006-08-05 11:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more than likely you are lazy due to medications and other things but that doesnt give him the right to call you names. Instead of trying to change him, you change, speak to him the way you would like to be spoken to. dont respond back the same way he will get the picture. But remember rome wasnt built in a day so put some time in before you start getting up set again. an on the flip side, try and do a little more around the house day by day and I guarantee you things will change. Give it time
2006-08-05 11:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jan l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meds aside, why do you stay and tolerate his sh*t?
My gosh lady, what will it take for you to get out of the marriage to this jerk?
He's not gonna stop verbally abusing you, but you have to stop taking his abuse.
Move out of his life and move forward on your own.
Bipolarism is enough for you to deal with without his verbal upsets.
I don't care what anyone says: free your a** and your mind will follow!
2006-08-05 17:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ONE deserves to be verbally abused!! NO ONE!!! Stand up to him and tell him how you feel about him calling you names. You don't deserve it, bipolar or not. My son is bipolar and I know how name calling would affect him. Don't' tolerate it, really, you need to put a stop to it now. If he won't stop, best think about what is more important in your life. Him or your well being.
2006-08-05 14:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start finding a divorce lawyer. You are not worthy of being called names. You are worthy of love and respect and no man should ever belittle a woman for any reason. Most abusive men belittle women to be controlling. It will most likely end up physically abusive. If you want to save your marriage then I would suggest marriage counceling.
2006-08-05 11:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by trace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some counseling. Bipolar is hard to deal with. Take the meds for it, they do help. If you can't work it out, get divorced.
2006-08-05 12:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by Norm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Verbal abuse is really harsh and can eat at you emotionally. If your husband has been doing this for a long time you probably wont get him to stop since CONTROL is HIS GAME. Get out of this marriage before it gets really out of hand.
2006-08-05 11:33:22 · answer #8 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to let him know that you will continue to let him disrespect you like that and if he continues to do show you will show the amount of no respect he shows you. If this does not work then you need to leave see if that can grab his attention.Or tell him to get off his lAZY @SS and to halp you clean that there are two ppl in a relationship not one so it takes two to make it work.
2006-08-05 11:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your medication (are you taking it?) and when he starts his abuse, calmly tell him you will not be disrespected and leave the room. If you take it, he'll gladly dish it out to you. This is in your hands; and it's your fault for putting up with it. No one can abuse you unless you allow it. Talk to your therapist also.
2006-08-05 12:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋