My boyfriend has a problem in his family so he had to leave for a couple of days. so i miss him a lot (we've been toghether for four years and i love him very much) but since i'm on vacation (and i can't go anywhere all by myself without him), i got bored and i started chatting with someone else. the other guy was no freak and i liked chatting with him, so i didn't tell him that i have a boyfriend. but i didn't do any remarks regarding a possible relationship and so on either. i wasn't thinking that i was cheating my boyfriend just by talking to someone, but when i finally told the other guy about that, he got mad and accused that i was a cheater. what do you think about it?
2006-08-05 04:22:57 · 9 answers · asked by ♫Pavic♫ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Flirting is harmless unless you bring the real world into it. You should have never told the other guy, you should have just continued being mysterious and unavailable.
2006-08-05 04:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 17⤊ 7⤋
It is a form of cheating, and guys make the same mistake sometimes also. My advise is to stop the chats with other guys now!!!! Telling your boyfriend about it may or may not be in your best interest, but it is the responsible thing to do.
You need to reverse the roles in this situation. How would you feel if he had done this to you? It is betrayal to the relationship.
You also need to ask yourself why you were weak in the time of need that your boy friend had. He probably would have liked to have heard from you for comfort and support. Instead you turned your back on him and went to the Internet for a chat partner for a while. Your boredom should have led you to pick up the phone and call your boyfriend, instead you looked elsewhere. I don't think that you really love him as much as you think you do. Ask yourself why you chose to talk to someone else that the guy that you tell us that you love. There really is a problem here.
Although I don't know your age, I am going to assume that you are still young. This should be more of a learning experience, and you should remember this for a long time. I hope that you understand how this is cheating and disrespectful toward yourself as well as your boyfriend. I hope that you don't repeat this type of mistake later in life when it really counts.
2006-08-05 04:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know about a cheater, but think about this, would you like the idea of knowing your bf was talking to another girl the way you were talking to this guy? NO most likely not. If you love this man dont put yourself out there like your single. Thats wrong and yes it might make you a cheater if anything happens. So if you are a coupkle act like his girlfriend and be faithful on all accounts.
2006-08-05 04:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you are not a cheater you were talking to another guy so what second he may have gotten the wrong idea of you talking to him in maybe a way a gf would talk to a bf just straiten that out third talk to your bf about this tell him it will make you feel a heck of a lot better than you would feel if you were just keeping this a secret.
2006-08-05 04:37:55 · answer #4 · answered by GREATGRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats a grey area... First off you should have been upfront with this indivdual. GIve him the option of talking or moving on... As far as being a cheater now I don't know what all was said but I think he just got pissed when things didn't go his way....
2006-08-05 04:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is talking cheating...........NO! Did you tell him you had a boyfriend.....yes, better late than never! Did you DO anything with him......no, you say. Then don't worry what the other guy says, he is just bent, cause he thought he was "the man", and he thought he could make you want him.....just be true to YOU!
2006-08-05 04:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by crpprc2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy NO the guy may have had a gf who went alot further than you . He was way out of place
2006-08-05 04:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by cardog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think what you did was ok..i mean that guy should understand that you have a boyfriend... try to make him understand the situation you are in...
2006-08-05 04:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by Goitseone S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have told this guy about your b/f to him he was looking for a possibly g/f
2006-08-05 04:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋