I can only orgasm on my own but not with another man, what's wrong with me?
2006-08-05 04:16:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
This is a real problem for a lot of girls.
Despite what most men think about their abilities, most of them could use some serious pointers – especially because they tent to forget that every girl is a little different, and what drove their last girlfriend crazy might be uncomfortable for the next one.
There are a couple of things you can try:
The first one, and the best one, is to show him what you like. You need to masturbate for him. Tell him that he can’t touch, he can only watch. Not only is it a HUGE turn on for him (to say nothing of you) but he gets to see exactly how you like to be touched.
Second – is batting practice. A guy can never learn to use the equipment, unless he has the opportunity to spend some time getting to know it – which means that you have to be comfortable enough with him to let him spend some time exploring – (I guarantee he is ready to go) and be open minded – he may be able to discover something you never knew about.
Third – Faking it. NEVER fake it. When you fake it, what you are telling the guy, is that the thing he was doing was driving you WILD, and is JUST the thing you need to get off. When in truth, it was probably something you wish he would not do again. But what do you think he is going to do again next time? That is right – the thing that drives you wild and gets you off. That thing you hate, that you have taught him that you love.
Fourth – is communication – which is what all of these are about really – whether he is watching you masturbate or discovering your body he is constantly receiving messages – make sure they are the right ones. But also – and more obviously – just tell him what you like. I guarantee he will enjoy hearing about it – especially if you make a sexy flirty game of it. Whisper in his ear when you two are out at dinner “you know, I am thinking about that thing you did to me last night and I am getting so wet” or “I wonder if you know how much I like it when a guy does ______ to me...” and watch the sparks fly.
Finally, don’t feel bad – MOST girls can’t achieve orgasm from penetration alone, and need to have some direct clitoral stimulation in addition to whatever sort of other stimulation they are receiving. Just let you guy know that. Most guys – particularly young guys – are not aware of this.
2006-08-05 07:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by ***** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you~You just know what feels good enough to orgasm. Maybe you need external stimulation not just penetration. i would incorporate toys into the bedroom see if that helps out. Maybe you are too self conscious when with a man to be able to let yourself be so velnerable.
2006-08-05 04:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by *bossy* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women dont orgasm from penetration unless they are controlling the action with a vibrator or a dildo. Usually this is because a man will finish before he can make her reach orgasm without the benfit of knowing exactly what makes it happen for her.
I suggest extended foreplay and oral sex before you actually get him inside you. I usually like to lick a woman's clit until she has several orgasms (as my name implies) before I penetrate her. If you only orgasm once during sex let him keep exciting your clit until your are near orgasm (either with his tongue or your toys) before you have his d*ck inside you. Once you have had a few orgasms with him inside you you will know how better to make it happen.
2006-08-05 05:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by colnelingus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at your partner. Kiss your partner. Say to your partner: Because I love you I want to show you how to make me reach an orgasm. Then show your partner what gets you to orgasm. Have fun with it, and make your partner comfortable with it. This is your equipment and you know what makes it go. Sharing this information with your partner is the best way to get the results that you want, and it also bonds you and your partner together. Best of luck and enjoy the experience.
2006-08-05 04:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by william m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was the first person I was with who was able to bring me to orgasm. I recently started taking an antidepressant, which affects my ability to orgasm. I read about taking Ginko Biloba to help with increased blood flow, and it helps. When I take it my husband can again bring me to orgasm.
Try taking ginko biloba before having sex with someone. Also, try to relax. It's not about performance or acheiving, it's about feeling good.
2006-08-05 04:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by Moxie1313 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not what's wrong with you sweetie, you should be asking what is wrong with your man! Tell him to take some lessons, or watch a few videos. Good luck w/ that!
2006-08-05 04:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by Ca-C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with you. Have you tried having him perform orally on you?
There are other ways to orgasm than just through intercourse, explore those...
Good luck!!!
2006-08-05 04:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by slickkittykattwhopurs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your name is "Betty Boop," but you refer to "another man" in your question. People are answering as if you were a woman, but that might be inappropriate. Maybe you have gender issues interfering with your sex life.
2006-08-05 04:41:06 · answer #8 · answered by Picture Taker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its you sweetie, i think its them. Let them know how you like it.
2006-08-05 04:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by Miss McBoing Boing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is many men and women that are same way.
2006-08-05 04:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by David R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋