ok, this is the situation, I knew him like 4 months ago,a lot of things have happened since then. First we start a beatiful friendship,we really enjoy spending time together.But then one day he left the town, he did think that he was not coming back, he were out of town like a month, but the problem was the day he left, he told me I love you, he told me I know it is wrong,because I am married,but IF i would know you before,everything would be different.So he left,we were talking by phone and by e-mails, one day he just came back,it was a big day, he told me I am here because I missed you a lot, so we start to go out,we spend his b-day together,we used to escape to be together,he told me I love you in a very special way.
These last days have been so hard, he had been working so hard,so we almost haven't spent time together.Yesterday he ask me to escape to spend time together,but he's to go with his wife,so we didn't.I am so sad,but I just have to accept it. Help me, please!!
2006-08-05 04:12:22 · 16 answers · asked by ema 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey ! you sound like a pretty smart young lady. You and I both know that this is doomed. there is no nice way to put it. He is having his cake and eating it too. If he really wanted to be with you he would be, there would be no wife. Please dont fall for the' I want to leave her but I cant" routine that is Bull ! You can do much better than that you dont have to take leftovers. if it was the other way around and you were the wife How would you feel? Right now is the time to sacrifice your owns desires for what is right !You need to leave that married man alone ! when he divorces his wife then you can be with him. Until then dont wait around accepting what he has left for you. You deserve a full time man
2006-08-05 04:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jan l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, lets get really practical for just a minute and forget love or not and moral or not and think about future. You say you love a man who is cheating on his wife. That tells you something about his character. Don't think you are a special case, he was married when you met him and he obviously felt himself "still on the market" or y'all never would have started something. Am I still on trail so far with the facts? Now lets jump ahead 18 months to after you;ve got what you wanted; He's left his wife, the divorce is final, y'all's weding was beautiful and he's "working late every" night now because you diserve the best money can buy so he's gotta make it for you right. Only you don't see an increase in income, just the lip-stick on his collar from his latest "I Love You, if only we'd met before I got married." Maybe you should take a look at what kind of man you want to spend your life with, I think you'll find he's not the answer.
2006-08-05 04:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you know he is married, so why even bother with him anymore, is the sex that great or something? Well it is even better with someone who truly loves you back!
You are the other woman in this, so you come 2nd to his wife, NOBODY deserves that, you are too special. Moving on is hard, but only 4 months, that is actually a very short time. You know he lies to his wife when he is with you, so you know he lies to you when he tells you he is working long hours and at the office or at a meeting. What makes you think that he doesn't have another affair or mistress out there.
I really suggest that you go and get tested for an std and tell his wife what has been going on. She deserves to know what a creep her husband is. They took vows!
You will later on thank god you left this looser, but please you sound too smart for this dirt bag!
2006-08-05 04:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by Stacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the third person in that triangle. In any triangle you need three sides. There is nothing in history to prove that once you are the third party that will ever change. Remember a leopard never changes its spots! Conclude, and look at this as a learning experience. Find someone that is a circle, as circles are continuous and have no sides. Thus the symbol of the union of two in the form of a ring.
2006-08-05 04:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by Cronus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing good can come from messing with another woman's husband. I would suggest leaving this man alone and concentrating on finding someone single. What makes you think if he is willing to cheat on his wife he wouldn't do the same to you? Please don't get any further involved with this man....he is obviously a cheater. I'm sorry you are hurting in regards to this relationship, but now is the time to get out. Good luck and I hope you find the right guy for you.
2006-08-05 04:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by softlyinspired 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your own advice was the best, accept it. He's married, he's not going to leave her and you should have left him alone when he told you he was married.FYI: 4 months is a very short time, he probablly has years of history with her, maybe even children? Good luck, there will be a man that is worthy of you.
2006-08-05 04:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you move on in another direction. It is obvious he is married and spending time with his wife. He enjoys having a fling on the side line and that is you. Your a mere convenience to him when he wants to escape. It is a fantasy island game he is playing with you...... He is not going to leave his wife and you will not have him to yourself.
Besides, do you really want a man who is cheating on his wife? I wouldn't as I would not be able to trust him when he went out of my sight. Cause if he is cheating on her he is cheating on you too.
Move on and let by gones be by gones.
Each day will be easier with time and I am certain you will find someone who truly wants to be with you and you alone.
Best wishes to you.
2006-08-05 04:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it, sweetie......you are in a loosing battle. It is called having an affair with a married man and he using you for sex. He throws in "I love you" and you, DUH, fall for it!!! Stop whining about this because you are creating it! You will be the end looser here because he is not about to loose the wife and everythig that he has worked for. It does matter about all the time you spent together....blah, blah blah.......what part of this don't you understand????? Are you stupid....or what????? Get yourself together and get a Life.....and stop whoring around!
2006-08-05 04:19:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, you guys are in a pickle, you can't just runaway and never come though, you gotta tell his wife how you feel about him, you might get bitchslapped, but you'll feel a whole lot better afterwards. You guys really need to get your facts straight about who you love. That guy that you love sound s fickle to me, I wouldn't try it.
2006-08-05 04:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by hotchica90210 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your buddy wants to have his cake and eat it to... Cut if off and tell him to call you when the divorce papers are signed.. Move on with your life girl it's to short not to...
2006-08-05 04:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋