weli like girls especially their breasts but i would never disrespect one. and i like to hang out with all people, its just that i usually cant get sexually aroused by seeing a woman. now i happen to like men's feet and i can tell when a man looks good or not but i cant help it. i am also a masochist i think but i only like it when a man does it. for example if i imagine beyonce naked it might take like 5 minutes to get excited but if i think about pain or feet it might take only 1 minute. i really like women and want to be married and have kids and stuff but im afraid like wat if i cant have sex, never have yet.
2006-08-05 03:55:18 · 12 answers · asked by nehemiah3131 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i think that gay sex is disgusting and would much rather be with a woman and have sex with a woman. i have more dreams about being tortured than i do women though.
2006-08-05 03:58:05 · update #1
You were not careful what outer stimuli you allowed into your thoughts while having your first sexual experiences... Either that, or something worse happened?
sensory perception has a great deal to do with future sexual preferences. I read in Cosmo about a man who could not have an orgasm or get excited unless there was cooked bacon somewhere in the bedroom with his girlfriend because it reminded him of a time that made him comfortable and feel safe which just happened to happen for him when he was having his first sexual feelings. The brain is a highly tunable machine and it relates and we often learn most of what we know as humans by that same relation to sensory perceptive events and input.
You can reprogram yourself it it makes you uncomfortable if you don't like it, it is just a matter of breaking a chain of neuron reactions that fire off in the brain that are connected for you. Just like quitting smoking. Think of other things while servicing yourself or have other things that are repetitive occur as background noise or visual going on while you do and you can re train your brain if you really want to. But don't think that you are a freak.
Your sexual blossom was just planted in a garden of onions. That is all! Pull it out and re plant it somewhere else in your brain.
2006-08-05 04:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I do not think you are gay, you might be a tad bi, but that's about it. And you don't need help, and I don't think you were abused, though I might be wrong I don't really know you. The torture thing is commonplace. A lot of people like to be dominated or to be the dominator...I live with one...and she seems to be happy with herself and I don't think there is anything wrong with her. She has healthy relationships, and has limits to make sure no injury comes to anyone.
2006-08-05 11:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by Shannie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be in denial, there is gravitation for you to be attracted to males, but in your mind it is being programmed as gross or unethical. Or could be bi.
If you like being tortured... this indicate you like rough sex. Something rough, which is not a girl. So, I believe you are attracted to masculine males.
There are varieties of gays. Not all gays look feminine and like feminine stuff. I think you might be attracted to hairy, muscular, masculine guys.
2006-08-05 15:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by teddybear1268 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A homosexual person is sexually and romantically attracted to members of their own gender.
A bisexual person is sexually and/or romantically attracted to persons of either gender.
Not all homosexuals engage in penetrative sex.
Your BDSM turnons sound like a fetish as they are required in order for you to be turned on. Take these things away, and your sexual performance becomes severely degraded. These are characteristics of a fetish.
Your desires to be married and have kids: Are they your own personal desires? or are they simply to please everyone else? or to make you feel more "worthwhile"?
2006-08-05 11:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may be bi. But you have a fetish you need to work out your sexual Identity. Yo9u have a scewed perception of homosexuality. You need to check out http://g0ys.org there is more to male to male intamacy than gay sex. I think you where abused a s a child and have replaced violance against you as male attraction.
2006-08-05 11:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude,I think you need to talk to a proffessional before you add someone to your life . If you're not upfront with your desires,and act on them while in a committed relationship,you're going to ruin another person's life. Deal with these issues before you have sex with anyone.
2006-08-05 13:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you dreams about torture are purly sexual. See a therapist.
You can sort out your sexuality in due time.
2006-08-05 13:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't gay because gay ppl aren't perverts and weirdos. I would suggest therapy. You definitely are not gay.
2006-08-05 11:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by BeachBum 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-06 06:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by doldemite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a fetish. and you have issues. but i dont think you are gay,. you just need therapy.
2006-08-05 14:16:15 · answer #10 · answered by Justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋