2006-08-05 03:52:19 · 25 answers · asked by roundysoft 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
masturbate!!
2006-08-05 03:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by h0ckeyl0ver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Myself, I love sex. But enough was enough. Men have other things on thier minds besides sex, believe it or not. Some things just have to get done before pleasure. Fixing the car, mowing grass, work, or thousands of other things, many of which might be more important than sex at some particular time. Have yunz ever gotten into an argument because he didn't want to drop what he was doing to have sex?
Have yunz ever argued, or have you physically abused him because he climaxed before you did? Well, if so, then maybe you have turned sex into just another 'chore' for him. Just another thing he has to do for you, but doesn't really enjoy, like when the garbage needs taken out. Try to quit bossing him around and treating him like crap, then maybe he'll perk up a little
2006-08-05 12:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by Mister Fuji 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU'VE GOTTA SEDUCE THE MAN, Honey. Buy something sexy even something edible. Do something nice for him. Have a romantic dinner (candlelights, champagne / wine, soft music by Luther Vandross, Lionel Ritchie, Michael Bolton, Celine Dion, Instrumental something from Kenny J etc. or whatever you want to listen to). An exotic dessert (strawberries, different types of fruits, whipped cream, chocolate). Then give your husband a full body massage using sensual oils, some foreplay (kissing, caressing). Talk about all the GOOD SEX times you've shared together. All these things should set him in the mood for a great evening / night. ENJOY YOURSELF and PLEASE / SURPRISE YOUR MAN, HONEY. By the time you are finished with him he will definitely LOVE SEX, more than you.
2006-08-05 11:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by tykky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you may have to face is perhaps the fact that he may still be interested in sex, but perhaps not with you. I know that this may be difficult for you to accept if it is true. If this is the true, the more advances you make toward him, the more he will be put off. You may need to refrain from it for a while and see how he responds. If sex with you does appeal to him over a period of time, it is not too far fetched to conclude that he may have another.
If the above is not the case, there is a possibility that he may be the type of man who enjoys the thrill of the chase. If you are readily available, the thrill is lost. Not everyone may agree with me, but there are men who enjoy sex when they feel that they are the ones 'taking' it from a woman, rather than the one giving it. This is not something to judge a man by, as he may have little control over what provides the best impetus towards sexual gratification for him. Men who think along traditional lines often tend to harbour such inclinations especially in situations where modern wives understandably view sex as a mutual need.
The best way to go is to approcah him in the confidentiality of your intimacy, and ask him for the reason. Tell him that no matter what his answer may be, that you will not be hurt. Be brave and accept any answer he may give. However hurting or puzzling it may be, you are at least now able to work with the truth.
If he says he does not know why - then attempt to work on your emotional intimacy with him first. When you can rekindle his initial liking of you, sex will inevitable follow. Sex between a husband and wife is necessary for a healthy marital relationship to be maintained. It will be truly sad if either spouse has to self arouse when his/her partner is still alive and married to him/her. This will only breed resentment toward the other party. Whenever sexual needs are not met, both spouses must regard this as a serious matter in their relationship. Not doing so leaves the relationship in grave danger.
It is always possible for one spouse to have a 3rd party satisfy his/her cravings, but this foreign gratification is usually the start of untold problems and complications that can end in total despair for both spouses. Many have lived to tell of such hell.
You may be burning hot right now and it seems as if it were everything, but the reality is - its only passion. Love however is what you should look at. Convert your energy towards rediscovering love thorough sacrifice and build up your emotional intimacy with your husband. That would be the icing on your cake and he will not be able to resist having sex with you. If you are on any other path because you love sex more than your marriage - you will be on shaky ground. Your husband may continue to believe that you need sexual gratification for its own sake (and that any male would suffice), rather than feel that it is HE whom you need to get such gratification from.
2006-08-06 02:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him. If he does not want to take care of you then you should be able to look else where, hopefully with your husbands blessings but if he does not, and I was you, I would definitely be looking for something on the side. Because of your husband's lack of desire, why should you have to limit yourself to toys and masturbation.
2006-08-05 14:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU SURE UR HUSBAND IS STRAIGHT? HAHA IM JUST KIDDING, TALK TO HIM LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU ARE FELLING, TELL HIM WHAT YOU WANT AND DONT BE SHY ABOUT IT HE KNOW YOU WELL ENOUGH TO UNDERSTAND, AND WHO KNOWS MABEY ITS JUST A FLICK IN HIS SYSTEM,U MIGHT JUST FIND OUT HE'S STRESSING AT WORK AND THATS A MAJOR FACTOR IN A PERSONS SEX DRIVE, HELPING HIM WILL IN TURN HELP YOU AND TRUST ME IT MIGHT JUST MAKE SEX PLEASING FOR THE BOTH OF YOU
2006-08-05 11:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by picies83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens sometimes. knock him on the head if he dont take hints...lol. not that head! you still need it...lol.
best to talk to him? thats what marriages are about, not all sex but also talk.
he maybe having his problems thus his lost of interest.
satisfy yourself before the solution, masturbate it off instead and he may be aroused or feel bad about that? seriously masterbate it off thats what i did whenever hubby is outstationed.
2006-08-07 04:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by superyoyogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally relate.
You can dress in sexy nightwear and try to get him interested. Or you could just take care of yourself without him, probably would feel better anyway.
Then there is the 'right' thing to do... talk to him.
2006-08-05 10:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by onejazzyjul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit n discuss the problem with u r husband , and ask him wht he likes n wht not. sex is not the only matter to ruin u r relation ship.
2006-08-05 11:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by pavvi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband may be gay or just not too interested in sex. you shouldve noticed this before you got married. if hes not too interested in sex he probably wont mind if you take a lover and keep it discrete. its up to you
2006-08-05 10:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by mr_soapytitwank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I want some and my husband isn't interested I find someone else!!!! If is doesn't want it there are others that do.
2006-08-05 11:54:52 · answer #11 · answered by wildladyreba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋