Husband wants a divorce but won't file because he doesn't want to look like a villain. He has the money to do it. I have no problems with initiating it, but I don't have the money saved up. He won't give me the money either. If he's so miserable, why won't he just get things rolling? Why is he prolonging this? What are my options? I have nowhere to go, and I want a good attorney. I really don't want to consider legal aid. Is this the route I should go? I don't see the sense in dragging this out simply because he wants to be an *** about this!!
2006-08-05 03:09:38 · 10 answers · asked by MaknMeCrzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is plain and simple.....if HE wants the divorice, then tell him that HE has to file. After all, he's the one who has the money, and he's the one who decided he no longer wants to be married. If he doesn't, then just tell him that you two will have to stay married....you're not doing a thing. Too bad if he looks like the villian!!! He's only trying to lay some kind of guilt trip on you. Don't fall for it..........
2006-08-05 03:29:40 · answer #1 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your local courthouse pick up the paperwork. It's free to get the papers you're going to need yourself. If he's willing to sit down and work through the paperwork then you can file that way and it's less expensive. He might be willing to pay for it that way. There wouldn't be lawyers getting involved because it wouldn't be contested.
Courthouses usually have lawyers on hand to answer questions that won't cost you any money so you can talk to one of them too about your options if he is not willing to go that route either. Perhaps you can hire a lawyer that will be able to recover the costs from the settlement. It's rare but some might be willing to do it.
Legal aid will most likely not get involved if there are not custody issues
Good luck
2006-08-05 10:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by christina s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he wants a divorce but won't follow through? There no doubt is a number of things going on with that.
1): To actually do it means to finally admit failure. While there may no longer be anything between you it still is a failure.
2): He may not want to, or know how to, begin the process.
Sure these are excuses but valid. I divorced my first wife because she found someone she thought was better. But I could not make myself start it until my new girlfriend pushed it. Even though I knew there was no other option I still could not face it.
We had been married 37 years. Hard to let go I guess.
2006-08-05 10:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like maybe he is not quit ready for that divorce yet. Maybe hes trying to incite change in you or he thinks he can have his cake and eat it to. But if divorce is the only option you are legally in titled to half of the money. If he wont give you the money just go to a lawyer and tell a lawyer. If your husband has the money he will work for you and he will make sure he gets paid.. dont let the money issue stop you tell your story to a lawyer he can help.
2006-08-05 10:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by sweetness_is_all_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he doesn't want to file a divorce because he still loves you. Both of you got together is a blessing so don't initial a divorce unless there is no happy times anymore. We always have ups and downs so now might be your down and by working on it .... you will be happier later on. "Every cloud has its silver linings."
2006-08-05 10:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would find a lawer that would file a divorce for you then i would tell the lawer to turn around and sue your husband for the attorney fee plus alimony
2006-08-05 10:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him do the leg work. He wants the divorce. Don't do anything.
2006-08-05 10:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why worry about divorcing, tell him till he files, you wont get divorced... its Just a piece of paper, but if he doesn't file, then i wouldnt bother
2006-08-05 10:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save up for it.
2006-08-05 12:36:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to convince him through common friends---ie., friend to both of you
2006-08-05 10:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by vasan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋