I was just sued by both my mother and my in laws, I lost both cases and now I think what they have done is?

Question

dispicable I dont want anything to do with either of them. This also means the'll never see thier grand kids agian. What would you do?

My husband had adrug problem and stoped paying the morgage so my inlaws picked it up for four years I paided them back 56,000.00 when I sold my house they wanted more and my mother figured she would jump on board the sue wagon cuase she gave me 10,000.00 as a christmas gift 6 years ago I hate them both for this.

I tried calling to claen the slate with my inlaws, but I scenced much bitterness, I am afaid if I leave myself open agian the will pounce. AS far as my mother is concerned she can died a horribly painfull death for not standing by me in my time of darkness.

Answer 1

I would meditate long and hard on what just happened. Did I really do something so seriously bad that I gave someone the right to sue me?
What were they suing you for anyway?

Answer 2

Okay, having read your additional details, I will change up my answer.

The very fact that your mother would sue you for more money after you have already repaid $56k, and ask a return of a Christmas gift is so low and dispicable, you and your husband and children need to move to the other side of the country and lose both parents' addresses. These poor excuses for family members do not need to have an influence over your children. Any family member that agrees with them also need not be there to influence your children, or you truly do run the risk of your kids picking up similar bad habits. (Bad company corrupts good habits.)

I know that seems kind of harsh, but your mother and his parents have shown that they are nothing more than opportunistic and unloving. They are not thinking of the new life that you and your husband and your children MUST forge together after this terrible event, nor are they taking the best care and needs of your children (let alone THEIR children) in mind as they ask you for oodles more money than you have aldready repaid.

It was nice of them to kick in and help out while your husband was battling some wicked, yuccy stuff, but for them to be less than graceful, especially after you've paid them back so much is so wrong on so many different levels, I can't even speak to that.

These people really should have no more bearing or influence over your and your family. They have shown you that they are willing to harm your family for the sake of a little bit of money.

Move away. Don't tell them where you're going, or even that you're going. Forgive the parents so as not to teach your children hate and bitterness, but this silent lesson will be a good one for your children to see and will understand from a logical perspective as they grow up.

Good luck, and I'm really sorry this happened to you. (Incidentally, I had to break off contact with my mother and family for something similar. It's not easy, but it's the only way to fully protect your family.)

Answer 3

I would cut them completely out of my life. When your kids are older, like high school age, explain to them in a fair and calm manner why you choose to not have contact with the grandparents.

If the grandparents are a bad influence, I wouldn't let my kids see them again.

Also consider if you need your parents' help at any time with the kids. If you're going to need a babysitter in the future, this might not be the best course of action.

I will say one thing, the first time the grandparents insult me or anything about me to my kids, it will be the last time the kids are around them until I (finally) get an apology.

Answer 4

First of all don't put your children in the middle. It is not their fault about what is going on and they deserve all the love anyone is willing to have for them. YOU do not have to have anything to do with them and you do not need to bad mouth them in front of your children, as far as telling you what else you should do, I would need to know more details of why they sued you. But every thing happens for a reason and we must move on. Good Luck and I am sorry that you went through this with your family.

Answer 5

If you lost both, than I'd imagine they had a valid argument, There is a saying " Money lent to a friend, might have to be recovered from an enemy" Don't punish the kids though for something you did, you'll get over this when you grow up.

Answer 6

well first of all I would never 2 anything 2 have 2 force my family 2 sue me. um what the hell did u do.

dont put the kids in this that is unfair 2 them. if u do not want 2 be bothered that is one thing but do not rob the kids of there grandparents n other family.

Answer 7

Need a little more info than that...

Based solely on the fact that you lost the case though, you were in the wrong. That being the case, you should just suck up your pride and accept it. I probably wouldn't go out of my way to invite them over or anything, but I would let them take the kids or drop them off, but I wouldn't stay...

Answer 8

Depends on the circumstances why they sued. I sued my husband to make the car insurance pay my medical bills when I was injured in an accident with him driving. He was fine with it and even drove me to arbitration and we went out to dinner afterward.

Keep in mind that if you keep them from seeing the kids, your kids will grow up without grandparents and will likely go behind your back unless they are very young. I would calm down and think long and hard before you put your kids in that position.

Answer 9

why were you sued by them. i mean life is too short to let a law suit come between you and your mother and your in laws. you need to make peace be the bigger person and move on cus i know you want to be in your grandkids lives.....best luck...p.s dont hate them they were wrong for what they did but forgiveness is way better than something happening to either of yall and you never get to say sorry or make peace. plz i've been through it and you want that love to be there with your family........ best luck

Answer 10

first of all, why dont you give the whole story. what did they all sue you for?

its pretty bad when your mother and in laws sue you. it must have been pretty serious. maybe they thought about it and decided that it was worth loosing their grandkids for because they didnt have to deal with you.

some states have grandparents rights. that means that they can sue and have visitation rights to the kids whether you like it or not.