I realized what they did was bad and all, but even if you won't have a marriage or that kind of relationship, don't you think a friendship would still be okay?
2006-08-05 02:54:00 · 20 answers · asked by healthnut 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes it's ok
everyone do wrong
just give them a chance to correct
2006-08-05 03:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by daniUm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to maintain a friendship after someone has cheated on you. I was married for 18 years and my ex cheated almost the whole time. We have 2 children from our marriage, and in order to do what's best for them we had to get past our anger with each other. I do not agree with his life style and think he lacks moral character, but we do maintain a friendship of sorts.
2006-08-05 10:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by Boose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is always ok. Forgiveness is important. Cheating is never good but sometimes things happen and I don't know the circumstances but as long as there is no abuse, and you want to continue a friendship then....why not? People are so quick to just throw away another human being because it is just easier than working through difficulties. NO ONE is perfect. This society has become a society that burns bridges rather than construction to make them stronger.
2006-08-05 10:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my wife was cheating on me because I was not there for her emotionally and not enough sexually. We recently had a major fight, the worst in our marriage and she has explained why this happened and how she does not want the divorce I was going for. We are friends again, we will be lovers soon I hope. I have issues with trusting her again, but knowing what caused the infidelity and what she really wants in life have helped me to forgive her and to be friends again. Time will heal my broken trust , and I now know what we both must do to create loyalty between us. Its a good start.
2006-08-05 13:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by paulsexpress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(*lol*) I recently reconnected with a guy who I was totally in love with...I ended it because he cheated on me (although, it was less the cheating, and more the lying that did it for me).
Anyway, I thought we could be friends again, as we started out that way. I was wrong. I didn't realize what a whine-y, high maintenance, pain in the behind he was....
Merely proves that love really is blind...and apparently also deaf and stupid.
Frankly, I don't see the point....one of the requirements of a good friend, is that you can trust them. If they weren't trustworthy in a relationship with you, then why would you think you can trust them as a friend?
2006-08-05 10:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lot's of questions on cheating here today, "What the hell, was everyone on holiday in Amsterdam recently?"
I'd like to think everyone is capable of moving past any sort of snags in any type of relationship. After all, who among us is without sin, so to speak. My sin may not be infidelity, but it is still sin. That alone should give us the humility needed to consider what really is going on and then to focus on the solution.
So yes, I do think you can move past it, just be real clear of your expectations of the relationship, it's our expectations that can get us into trouble, not their actions. And we are ONLY responsible for our feelings, expectations and actions as you cannot ( nor should you attempt) to control another person. Peace.
2006-08-05 10:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get over what happened then that's wonderful. I realize that most people are better off being friends in the first place. When two people can get passed all the bull and remain friends I call that being mature adults.
2006-08-05 10:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by s. life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on you and how you feel about him. If you really love him and want to make it work you need to forgive him and never bring this topic up. You need to let it go and let it be - I have several friends that have gone through this and are still married but what works is for you to forgive him and never bring it up no matter what. But if you feel you can not forgive him and he really caused you pain maybe you need time to think about it and decide then - hope that helps
2006-08-05 10:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by Camille L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very painful when someone cheated on you and heart broken too. there is nothing bad with a plain friendship without any commitment attach because you still need their held tomorrow
2006-08-05 10:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by sankara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, in the back of your mind you want to get back together. Forget about the Cheater totally and sever all contact.
2006-08-05 10:01:24 · answer #10 · answered by Dennis Fargo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At most times you will never get the time of day, let alone still be friends. My friend did this to me and it stung me for awhile, but I still call my friend.
2006-08-05 10:09:08 · answer #11 · answered by melven j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋