2006-08-05 02:46:29 · 34 answers · asked by healthnut 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been there, I chose to stay for my young children. I had been living my life as a sad miserable person. I wish I had the nuts to leave when I caught her. I did try to make her leave at first but because of the kids, she fought me. Things have gotten better for us lately, but there is an issue of trust that I must see her make a vigorous effort for me to want to stay on with her after my kids are finished with high school. We still love each other, but I question myself how much love I do have for her everyday. I think we can work out this very bad thing she has done and not be 1 of those statistics. As for her having no remorse, she had none as far as could see, so I went to see a friend and had sex with her because we were both in the same boat. I felt very guilty at first, but realized my wife had no guilt at all so this woman and I continued to have sex until my wife stated she wanted to repair our marriage. Telling my friend was not easy, and she has not taken this well with me. I do not feel guilty, as neither does my wife as far as I can tell. At least she never found out, and never will. But I now feel very bad for my friend because she is still with her cheating drunken husband and will be stuck there with her younger kids like I was. Everyone says pack up and file for a divorce, that is not as easy as 123. This is something that must be planned ahead of time.
2006-08-05 07:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by paulsexpress 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer, and try to keep as much of your assets as possible in the divorce. Don't rollover in court like alot of guys do, and act like your life is ending. Handle it like a war, or boxing match. Fight that biotch until she doesn't have nothing left. She made the mistake not you. After your divorce get out on the scene, and the gym. Have sex with all of those girls you wanted to while you were married but didn't. Take vacations just dedicated just to doing this.
2006-08-05 02:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by patrarno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you HAVE to REACT...there's no respect for you obviously. This is a bold face "I'm doing what ever I want to and I don't care if you know about it or not!".
You can stick around and let it go on and act like it doesn't hurt. Or you can say "Don't let the door hit you on the way out sucker!" YOU deserve respect in your situation. You don't have to go out and find a "one nighter" just to make things equal. Be above that. You don't have to belittle the person or call names. Just be yourself and speak your mind. Make yourself clear on your point and make the pathway to the door clear. Obviously you'll have to touch upon the financial end of things. But, what is going to put you out most? You deserve to be respected and valued.
2006-08-05 03:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by sunnyboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then it is time to call it quits. Been there done that. EXwife cheated 3 time on me. The third time NO REMORSE. Sorry but I dont think it is worth staying and working it out.
2006-08-05 02:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by the_saint1963 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pack they **** put it on the lawn change the locks n get a good *** lawyer. um very first thing make sure u have the evidence so u get a better settlement in the divorce.
anyone who cheats is not worth ur time or effort. there is someone out there 4 u but u need 2 take out the trash first. good luck
2006-08-05 02:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Healthnut:
You should pack your bags and leave. You are worth more than what he has to offer at this point. The separation will give you both time to think about what you really want.
You may find that this person is not for you, or you may both decide to grow from this period in your life.
2006-08-05 03:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by peace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initial reaction shall be one of anger then of misery at being cheated. Then you try and move on in life with or without him by your side doing things that you always wanted to do. Things that make you happy and the person you are.
2006-08-05 02:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by Rainbow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
D-I-V-OR-C-E, it will hurt at first , but you'll get over it and be better off for it. Do you really want to spend anymore time with a female (not a woman or she wouldn't have cheated) who doesn't care if she hurt you? Dump her *** and move on.
Lifes hard enough to get through these days, you don't someone elses weigh and selfishness weighing you down.
2006-08-05 02:53:13 · answer #8 · answered by DeltaQueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person who is cheating needs to leave.....and that's pretty much what they want anyway. Marriage is a commitment between two people and when one of them cheats the commitment is broken.
2006-08-05 02:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I smile at them - look them in the attention and smile at them, permitting the smile to tutor in my eyes. i do no longer provide insults lower back and nor do i react to insults - i wont tutor them that i'm harm/indignant etc. each and every so often i do the smile ingredient, turn and walk away, different situations i will do the smile ingredient and say see you later. each and every so often i will declare a touch sneaky fact, in spite of the incontrovertible fact that it relies upon on the region and the insult. I wont be rude, i wont insult and that i wont tutor that i felt the insult in any way, yet each and every so often i will make a cheeky or sneaky fact after the smile in the previous i walk away just to get them thinking.
2016-10-01 12:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋