Just because my husband and I are going through rough times doesn't mean I can't ask about his whereabouts, does it? As long as we are married and under the same roof, I have a right to know where's he's been. He gets very defensive and tells me to stop questioning him like everything's peachy between us.
The more and more I think about it, the more I want to take my kids and leave.
2006-08-05 02:38:38 · 13 answers · asked by MaknMeCrzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should hire a private investigator if you suspect him of something. If he's out and you don't know where he's been and he gets defensive when you ask, odds are he's cheating.
2006-08-05 02:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going through rough times then there is a very likely chance he is finding solace elsewhere. Not an absolute but clearly not with you.
Take you kids and leave. If he really loves you and is just having a hard time with something he will let you know. If not then it's time for a divorce.
As for your insistence that you know where he is all the time. Men really hate to have to check in with the wife. Makes him feel like he's back with mama. Not good. However if he is not at work and he is not with you then you do have a right to know where he is.
Ask him direct. What bar are you going to? What is her name?
Do you want me to leave you? If that last question gets no response then go. you know what the problem is between you, any way to work on that?
2006-08-05 10:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going thru the same exact thing. I think we have a right to know. I would have already left my worthless husband but I have no where to go. So I am saving up money so I can afford to leave if it gets any worse. Also, my husband emotionally abuses me. He calls me names CONSTANTLY and he went to jail awhile back for hitting me. He is in anger management now and hopefully it will work. If not, I am leaving when I get enough money. I would move in with family but they all live a long way off and I cant quit my job. Good luck.
2006-08-05 09:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this sounds like my wife ..she was always dodging around where she had been would go to the shop to get milk and come back hours later with no milk ..things like that and then get angry when asked what took so long... I can understand if you feel like your being treated like an imbecile but its not you thats doing the wrong thing if he was honestly not doing anything wrong then he would say where he had been... both you and the kids will be better off without lies....whatever you decide to do I wish you all the best and hope that things improve for you and your kids
2006-08-05 09:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is doing something he doesn't want you to know about. A clean conscience isn't defensive. I don't want to advise you to leave your husband, only you can make that call.
You do seem to have issues, if you have tried everything in your power to fix the problems, try seperation, but know that if you leave, it may be for good.
2006-08-05 09:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your gut. He is probably out cheating that is why he gets so defensive. You have every right to ask!
2006-08-05 09:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are married you have the right to ask regardless of whether you quarreled or not. If he doesn't buck up, leave him.
2006-08-05 12:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm going the through the same crap w/ my husband.....he'll come home when ever he feels like it and comes and goes as he please....right now we don't have much of a marriage and i know that wont change.....at this point im just trying to get through school and get my degree and then im out of here he at least owes me that.....good luck to you, i know it really sucks and its hard to keep your sanity....i wish you well......
2006-08-05 10:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by kalie s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's NOT cheating. Maybe the relationship is stressing him out as much as it is you.
Maybe he's out drinking, to try to relieve the stress.
2006-08-05 09:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by dryheatdave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already know the answer, you just don't want to accept it.
2006-08-05 09:44:36 · answer #10 · answered by Keven P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋